User Comments

1. 

   8/13/09

   vagi411

   giving the whole 100%

   [reply]
2. 

   8/13/09

   LolitaV

   when their un/reasonable needs aren't met. when they feel the one they love slipping right through their fingers. when they are unhappy.
   
   
   
   
   the list could go on. each relationship is different.

   [reply]
3. 

   8/13/09

   vagi411

   ok..

   [reply]
4. 

   8/13/09

   hatingtherain

   Just like you don't know how to cure herpes, Vag411?

   [reply]
   1. 

      8/13/09

      cookingasshole

      I have missed her interesting and insightful threads as of late...where have you been Vagi?
5. 

   8/13/09

   LolitaV

   I like anyone named vagi.

   [reply]
6. 

   8/13/09

   crpitt

   Oh Vagi you're back!

   [reply]
   1. 

      8/13/09

      cookingasshole

      you're
      
      thank you - the grammar police
   2. 

      8/13/09

      crpitt

      ta
7. 

   8/13/09

   aspotofblog

   I agree with some of Lolita's points:
   When your emotional or physical needs aren't met, despite communicating about it to your partner
   When you are polar opposites or start growing apart
   When one or the other enters into a relationship expecting that they can change their partner
   One or the other partner let's their looks or health go and their attraction to their partner wanes
   Jealousy
   Physical or emotional abuse
   When one partner has a higher or lower sex drive than the other
   Lack of communication
   Boredom
   When one or the other partner has unreasonable expectations (you have to be realistic about relationships)
   Too many to mention, and couples have different reasons. I've heard that the no.1 causes of divorce is financial problems and infidelity

   [reply]
8. 

   8/13/09

   MadameX

   Holes in their own lives.

   [reply]
9. 

   8/13/09

   Agit8r

   Chemical imbalance

   [reply]
10. 

    8/13/09

    nothingprofound

    You're asking what makes them desperate, not why they might be unhappy or dissatisfied? Because those are two completely different things. I think people get desperate in a relationship because they're looking to find salvation, fulfillment, through another person, instead of finding it in themselves.

    [reply]
11. 

    8/14/09

    SweetViolet

    Desperation really has nothing to do with the partner in a relationship, and everything to do with the emotional makeup of the desperate one.

    [reply]
12. 

    8/26/09

    JasonAckles

    Every relationship is different, therefore there could be numerous reasons for the relationship having a few unexpected twist and turns. I think desperation kicks in because some one needs are not being met. When this occurs people find other things to fill that void. A relationship is difficult because you have to constantly do things to keep it fresh, live,and exciting. Easier said then done. Do things that will build the emotional connection you have with one another.

    [reply]
13. 

    8/28/09

    Lonewolf83

    "Every relationship is different, therefore there could be numerous reasons for the relationship having a few unexpected twist and turns"
    
    I agree with Jason. Too many reasons. They could be scared,insecure,ect the list goes on, and that applies to both men and women.

    [reply]
14. 

    8/28/09

    wagerwitch

    Aspot is dog on!

    [reply]