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What should you never do at a wedding?

Posted by creativedreamevent • 8/23/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: faux pas, things to never do, wedding mistakes, weddings

I'm making a list of things that people should never do during a wedding. I'll compile the best into a top 10. I'll add your blog url if your idea is included. Start thinking creatively! It does not have to be serious, just possible.

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8/23/08

Theresa111

Never look better than the bride. Do not wear white and never do anything to detract from the bridal couple.

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1. 8/25/08
  
  gaolga
  
  Wear white is "forbidden" also in Mexico (not forbidden but shocking... and thing that shouldnt be done), but in France i attend to the weddings and I was shocked because I saw some women wearing white and nobody caring... and me I was super shocked of see that...
8/23/08

Anok

Don't get drunk and vomit on the bride, groom, or anyone in the wedding party.

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1. 8/23/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  I second that. Don't get drunk and don't hit on the bride cause u r drunk
2. 8/23/08
  
  wigwam2theorem
  
  Great, now you tell me...
3. 8/23/08
  
  dlowe
  
  So vomitting on other guests not in the wedding party is allowed? Awesome!
8/23/08

globalgirl

Don't reveal secrets about the bride or groom, especially during the toast time.

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1. 8/23/08
  
  Theresa111
  
  That has got to be number one!
8/23/08

thevagmaster

Don't ask for seconds at dinner.

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8/23/08

SweetViolet

Wearing black is for funerals...if you wear black to a wedding, it is a sign that you disapprove of the marriage.

If the dinner is served buffet style, the bride and groom go first.

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1. 8/23/08
  
  Theresa111
  
  Unless ... it is a black and white attire wedding, whereby all of the guests are supposed to wear this combination. I attended one of these years ago. It was taking place on New Year's Eve. Perhaps that was their reasoning for this request. It is not a normal thing.
8/23/08

powerdraw01

Say "I do".

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1. 1/07/09
  
  LynneaUrania
  
  I'll second that one.
8/23/08

SweetViolet

Do not assume an invitation to attend includes your whole family, your best friend, your boyfriend, and most especially, your kids. Look at the name(s) to whom the invitation is addressed...nobody else is invited.

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8/23/08

ranist22

Don't get drunk and become the pillar of the bar.

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8/23/08

creativedreamevent

These are great! Keep them coming. Just between you and me, I've been to weddings where it was hard not to look better than the bride. Oh, that was ugly! But sometimes it's true. I was actually at a wedding recently where a girl wore a snake skin looking white one shoulder dress. I'm not joking. It was the worst I've ever seen. She seemed completely oblivious though, but someone who would wear that would be wouldn't they. Love the comments! Thanks and don't stop!

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1. 8/23/08
  
  Theresa111
  
  Seems her taste was in her mouth, so to speak. There should always be someone with good taste having final say on the wedding party's attire.
8/23/08

page99

Don't sleep with the groom unless you are the bride....

Don't ask me how I know that....

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8/23/08

timethief

Don't accept an invitation to a wedding reception where each plate costs $50 and bring your whole family but neglect to bring a wedding gift.

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8/23/08

Theresa111

Before sending out invitations ... Be certain of the personalities of old boyfriends and girlfriends (of the bride and groom.) No scenes allowed.

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8/23/08

Theresa111

Here are a few tips:

www.essortment.com/lifestyle/weddinggifteti_sifa.htm

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8/23/08

creativedreamevent

What about don't cut the cake unless you are the bride and the groom.

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1. 8/23/08
  
  Theresa111
  
  Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ha ... ah! Or swipe a bit of icing on your fingertip! Ouch, my side hurts from laughing.
8/23/08

creativedreamevent

I can't help it but I'm beginning to find this funny, too. Never, never, get grandma drunk and take advantage of her in the broom closet.

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1. 8/23/08
  
  lordiwanttobewhole
  
  haha...American Pie ! Good One
8/23/08

kevinatserieatalk

never attend a wedding where singles are not offered the option to bring a guest in the invitation

www.youtube.com/watch?v=_GWEo4nl7a0&feature=related

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8/23/08

drjay1966

How about begging the bride to reconsider and come back to me just as she's walking down the aisle?

Not that I've ever done that, or anything....

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8/23/08

DrowseyMonkey

Get married. Or did someone say that already?

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8/23/08

lordiwanttobewhole

Get obnoxiously drunk, make a spectacle of yourself and jump in front of the camera everytime someone has a camera....thus, ruining all the pictures...because all the pictures will be of the drunk bimbo!

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8/23/08

LGramlich

Cut a wicked loud, wet fart during the exchanging of vows.

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8/23/08

globalgirl

Be a runaway bride or groom.

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8/23/08

lordiwanttobewhole

Be a Wedding Crasher!

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8/23/08

Kiwipulse

Don't get drunk and fall sleep in front of the entrance.

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8/24/08

ElleB

Don't use the disposable camera at your table to take 27 pictures of your genitalia... don't ask.

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8/24/08

Arashmania

Don't get drunk and openly make out with a girl on the dance floor, stripping away. It takes away attention and focus from the soon-to-be married couple.

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8/24/08

curlydesigh

hmm... don't dress like a slut or bring badly behaving children or men to the affair.

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8/24/08

Nathallie

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8/24/08

myriadlife

Do not wear green -it's unlucky.

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8/24/08

Anniepooh

Pee in the punch?

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8/24/08

RayRayStandUp

AT a wedding? so I´m already there?
hmm..
I would never transform into a huge unnatural and unrealistic looking spider.

definitely a big no-no.

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8/24/08

theabsolutearena

Don't have sex with the grandparents...it's really awkward.

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8/24/08

ThriftShopRomantic

Always remember that the wedding is about the bride and groom, not you and your preferences. So criticizing decorating, food and other choices because they're not to your personal taste, well, there's no real need for it.

Let them enjoy their day the way they'd want it, criticism free.

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8/24/08

downwordspiral

Don't leave your cellphone on during the wedding ceremony. Don't bring a crying baby.

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8/24/08

violetteb

Never say anything bad about the bride or groom...you might not have any idea who you're talking to and if it will get back to the bride or groom.

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1. 1/07/09
  
  busylizzy
  
  Just before my wedding, my grandfather had a heart attack and couldn't come so we videotaped the wedding. We caught alot of people's conversations! Luckily, none were negative so I guess we are lucky in that respect. But we did catch a table talking about how my hubby and I first met which such a romantic addition to the video!
8/24/08

dougist

Never bring up or talk about your previous (ummmm) *relationship* with the bride (or groom). Just act dumb and remember to say the three magic words: "I don't recall"

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8/24/08

GetSmart

Here's a bunch of don'ts at a wedding.

Don't gossip at a wedding, you never know who is around you. In general, it's not a smart move to gossip.

Don't grab the centerpiece on every table to take home. I think that is tacky. Remember that you're a guest to a formal event, not at a rumage sale.

Don't talk during the ceremony, the main attention is on the Bride and Groom. You will have plenty of time to talk at the reception. It is plain rude.

Don't be a sloppy drunk and make a spectacle of yourself. If you can't control or limit in consuming alcohol, you shouldn't drink at all. Try Martinelli's Sparkling beverage.

Don't get involved or try to solve problems that arise during the reception. It's best to avoid problems that don't concern you. And if the problem does concern you, step back and deal with the problem away from the supposed happy occasion.

Don't play matchmaker at a wedding. If someone is interested in another person, introduce that person, but don't initiate it. They can figure that themselves if they are willing enough.

Don't kiss the Bride before she's taken her wedding pictures. She will not appreciate lipstick on her cheeks in the photos.

For the Bride, try not to cry during your ceremony. Even though these are happy tears of joy, one is your make-up took an hour to be perfect and secondly, your photos will look like you went to a funeral.

For the Groom, don't get so drunk that you end up passing out. Did you forget the honeymoon? And is there something that you forgot to mention before we got married? Also don't talk about the bachelor party, the one you promise to not bring up, but someone over hears and tells the Bride. And last, don't forget to pay some extra attention to the Bride during the reception, you know the kisses, flirtly glimpses and whisper.

For the Photographer and or Videographer, don't forget to take the camera lens. This event for the happy couple will only happen once.

I hope that you like these.

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1. 8/24/08
  
  creativedreamevent
  
  Yes, I loved them. I am going to do a blog post and need good "don'ts" but I also love the funny ones. The discussion is much more enjoyable with the the silly stuff thrown in with the actual useful advice, although even the gross ones are good advice if you think about it. Maybe I'll include some of them just to lighten up the piece. Thanks for being so sincere and thorough. I appreciate it. I'm thinking about getting more of my blog ideas from some of these informal surveys since I get more response here than on my blog right now which is really new. You helped a lot And to be fair, so did every one else including the wet fart comment. It may be gross, but it is NOT a good idea.
2. 8/24/08
  
  GetSmart
  
  Oh I agree with using these discussions in feedback. I find them quite useful myself. You get the live and quick responses, especially if you're brainstorming. That's why I enjoy BC discussions. You get response from people globally.
  
  Yeah the comments with the informal ones that are silly can intrigue and keep your reader laughing here and there. That's good. The one with the Bride crying, that was me. lol I was so happy, my photos were nice, but I felt I looked more less sad or upset until I got to the reception. hehe
8/24/08

creativedreamevent

Put e-lax in the chocolate fountain

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8/24/08

GetSmart

eww!! That's so gross. rotf...

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8/24/08

JaydenVasara

1. don't get drunk and make a scene (or get sick!) at the wedding
2. for women, don't wear anything white and lacy...the bride may kill you
3. don't try to flirt w/one of the people getting married. i've seen this end really really badly (probably b/c there were exes involved)
4. don't start critiquing the wedding outloud

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8/24/08

jackpayne

Don't expound on your heathenism, denounce all Christian religions, and laugh off the wedding ceremony as a tool of the elite, at the expense of the working slob.

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8/24/08

creativedreamevent

Good one, would have never thought of it, myself, but I'd love to be at a wedding where some drunk did that and just sit back and watch!

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8/24/08

voodooKobra

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1. 8/26/08
  
  GoNaturalBaby
  
  goooooooodnessssss :-0
8/24/08

gerri50

Don’t decide it is safe to sneak the bride away and have sex with her especially if you are not the groom and think people may not notice. The end results are not good.

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1. 8/26/08
  
  tondy
  
  Interesting
8/24/08

DaneMorgan

Detonating a thermonuclear device at a wedding would probably be in bad form, I think.

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1. 8/25/08
  
  creativedreamevent
  
  or give one as a gift
8/24/08

lisamcglaun

Never raise your hand when the minister says, "If anyone knows a reason why these two people should not be wed, speak now or forever hold your peace."

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1. 8/25/08
  
  creativedreamevent
  
  Does that ever really happen except on Soaps?
2. 1/07/09
  
  sriraminhell
  
  Edit: I said the same thing "creativedreamevent" said. My bad.
8/25/08

Shankerbakshi

don't drink and be a onlooker

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8/25/08

rkithink

you should stop looking at other girls

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8/25/08

hellboi

Don't ask guests for their invitations (actually wait, do that. something I would do - ought to annoy the krap out of them!)

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8/25/08

kdawg68

don't get drunk (as the groom) and talk openly about how hot one of the bridesmaides is.

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1/07/09

davidc

Alright already...

I'll be sure to wear a blindfold, have duct tape over my mouth, handcuffs on and behave myself at the next wedding I attend.

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1. 1/07/09
  
  busylizzy
  
  David - I thought the handcuffs were for the wedding night! LOL!
1/07/09

Kooies

lovebirds.sg/2008/11/08/weddings-superstitions-and-traditions/
Some of the wedding superstitions...

And for Chinese:
lovebirds.sg/2008/11/08/all-aboutchinese-wedding-taboos/

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1/07/09

busylizzy

I have 2 relatives with alcohol issues. For that reason, there was no booze at my wedding. I didn't want any scenes!

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1/07/09

Rooviemaker

My friend decapitated the ice sculpture, walked onto the dance floor and threw the head of the ice-goose to me. My inlaws were not pleased. Don't do that.

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1/07/09

calais50

I don't know if anyone has said this yet, but if you're a guest, don't walk in in the middle of the bridal procession. I saw a guest at a wedding once walk in between the bride's maids as they were marching in.

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1/07/09

lordiwanttobewhole

Try to bite your tongue when it is asked "Does anyone have any objections?" haha!

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