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What would you do if your friend's husband asks to sleep with you?
Posted by emmage002 • 10/04/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: adultery, backslider, faithfulness, infidelity, marriage, temptation
What would you do this in you state of vulnerability?
If you were a lodger at the couple's apartment away from home,and seeing this man is your friend's husband,besides you never saw it coming because He said he was a christian?
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i'd say know because I'm heterosexual.-
should say NO not know
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Tehehe,I saw that to. -
Should be too and not to
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Um... you don't want to be that slut who slepped with her friends husband, so no.
I'd also leave and get a hotel room, and I would tell my friend about her husband because he is a scumbag and she needs to know about it. -
I'd say no. And I've been in a sticky situation like that before. I said to him: 'You know what, J is my friend, so I will never do that to her.' I don't mess with my friends' relationships, relationships are fragile as it is.-
Thanks for the answer.
Good response aspot.
And thank God you overcame.
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I'd give him a good rack in the tenders to remember me by and then move out of the place. You'll have to decide for yourself how to deal with explaining that to your friend. If he tells her some cockamamie story that makes you look bad, you have every right to defend your reputation but otherwise it might be best to simply let that dog lie.-
thanks bamel.
great response.
it takes gut and grace to do the rest after resisting him.
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I would tell him that I was disappointed, in that I wanted to think more of his character (especially if he's a self-proclaimed Christian). I'd tell him that I hoped this was just a momentary slip and that I'd pray that he got his head on straight and hoped that he'd do the same.
And then, as others have said, get the heck out of there asap. -
I would tell him where to go and immediately tell my friend what a loser her man is... -
I'd decline politely, and move out.-
true Np, but what if he overpowers you? And the deed is done, because his aim was ultimately to add you to his list of victims.
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What a lady ought to do is to just decline and give no preachings etc and lengthen the conversation
The decline should leave no room for any doubt -
you should sleep with him -
"never saw it coming because He said he was a christian"
but he's 'forgiven' *rolls eyes* -
@Agi
Yeah, Christians don't cheat. Ever. Remember that.-
especially christianist politicians
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Family_(Christian_political_organization)
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First - decide what caused this situation.
Men often think with their bodies first (no offense, but it is true in a lot of circumstances.)
So - if you were giving him the wrong impression (wearing slinky clothing, wearing teddies around the house, showing off your body --- flirting with him... Lingering glances, hugs that were more than just light hugs, touching that was not just for friendship...) IF YOU WERE FLIRTING WITH HIM - you are at fault.
If he is just coming on to you - for example, slipping into your room in the middle of the night while your friend is sleeping, trying to take advantage of you - touching you inappropriately... THEN HE IS A SCUMBAG and you need to move out.
I mean - if you two are falling in love, under your friend's roof - that's one thing... Yes, it's wrong - but it happens. Decide what is more important to you and act on it.
If he is doing things to you that you didn't ask for - and if he is forcing himself on you - then you need to tell him to stop - and if he doesn't listen - you need to call the police. If he goes further than what is acceptable you need to call the police.
You are in an uncomfortable position - and this means you may be letting things happen to you that ARE NOT APPROPRIATE - because you may have nowhere else to go.
DO NOT LET THIS HAPPEN.
You have a couple of choices - and they depend on how this circumstance came about.
ONE) You could move out eventually - telling him to back off - never discuss it again - and if he does, you will tell your friend.
TWO) Tell your friend right now - be prepared for her to blame you - and be prepared to move out. Be prepared for her to hate you. But you would know that you did the right thing. ALSO - Be prepared for her to NOT believe you.
THREE) Go with it - enjoy it - be sleazy behind your friend's back - and if you fall in love - run away with him.
FOUR) Ignore it and tell him to never bring it up again - to never mention it - and thanks but no thanks. If he does bring it up again - move out.
FIVE) Move out - telling neither of them why.
SIX) Punch him, slap him and then drop kick his privates - tell him if you ever hear of him cheating on your friend you'll do worse.
SEVEN) Pray - and Pray and Pray.
Now - that is a bunch of suggested ideas.
Personally I'd try to see if a) I'd led him on. B) if he is just a cheating jerk. C) If my girlfriend is aware of her cheating husband. D) Then I'd probably tell my girlfriend immediately - and do it gently... Like as in -
"OMG honey - I am not sure what to do - I love you girlfriend - and I have a dilemma and I have to tell you because I love you... And I want you to know the only reason I am telling you is because I would want you to tell me the same thing if you were in my shoes. What I'm going to say is going to hurt and it may make you angry at me - and if that is the case - I forgive you now... I will look for another place to live immediately if that is your wish. But I will stand beside your decision: here is what happened:________________________"
And then I would make arrangements to leave the area and give them time to deal with it - and have the girlfriend call you with the results. Whether you can go back or not.
Just my opinion tho - he's a scumbag - unless you two have just fallen in love - then the heart wants what the heart wants - and well - stuff happens.
However - if you aren't interested - and he is pursuing you - then he is a scumbag.
And your poor girlfriend.
Moving out - is the best thing.
Your choice how you handle the rest.-
I've been holding this in, but I now officially crown you "Queen of the Long Post."
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LMAO - yeah - I know. Sigh... Short posts are rare with me. I sit there and I think... and then I make sure that I say exactly what I mean - otherwise someone might put words in my writing... And well - I say a lot - and I talk a lot too... My poor family... But they DO love me. LOL!
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Thanks wager,
Your missive was elaborate and strikes me you've experienced same before.
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Been there done that, no win situation. He's a dog, most men are dogs, SORRY but I said most not all. Don't tell your friend, she probably won't believe you and even if she does it's bad. If you can MOVE OUT! -
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A lot of women are dogs too. I'm one. -
I'd say "no" and then tell my friend he had asked me. Then I would let the two of them work out their own solution and not mention it again.-
thanks timethief,
but if your girlfriend, the wife refuses to believe your claim, what would you do?
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@aspotofblog I never said I hadn't been a dog did I?
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one make other sleeping arrangements. There are many hotels and motels. secondly give him a piece of mind while my phone is recording the conversation. thirdly tactfully speak to my friend about it. It is not write to have an affair with a married man, regardless of whether it is your worst enemy.
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Um you bust him the hell out,trying as hard as you can nott to slap the hell out of him. Then you leave the apartment bc that puts your friend in a really hard spot.
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Do you really have to ask? -
Call his wife and ask her what to do -
No thank you. -
I would tell him to piss off and then let my friend know what happened immediately.
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