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When does one reach a point that enough is enough

Posted by Fabulous44 • 6/11/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: relationships

I was reading my local paper today and came across a very disturbing article about a woman who told a jury how she loved her abusive boyfriend and couldn't leave him....

The article went on to say he held her captive for 17 days and mercilessly whipped her with an extension cord and duct taped her hand to a crib...He also sat on her back and burned her with a cigarette lighter..

This dude is now in jail facing a life sentence for kidnapping her..

Now the jury was taken back by her testimony about their love hate relationship.. she occasionally wiping her tears and peaking over at him....

She went on to describe the abuse she suffered in their relationship but in between all that she is telling the juror how he treated her nice, made her laugh, cooked and cleaned and even ran her bath water...

They asked her when the abuse started why didnt she go to the police she said she Love him and figured it would stop sooner or later...

I am not one to judge anyone... lord knows I have had my share of an abusive relationship but nothing compares to this...

My question is when is enough..enough...At what point do we decide to leave it alone and run like hell away from these types of situation....

I really feel for the woman who are in or have been in these types of situation...

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6/11/09

nothingprofound

Any amount of abuse is too much, in my opinion. But different strokes for different folks..

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  dbowles1017
  
  I agree completely.
6/11/09

Avellar

There is NO acceptable reason for abuse of this nature. I say remove this guy from the world, not jail but death. We are better off as a society without him and all that are like him.

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6/11/09

MissSuzie

Although I have never been physically abused, I can totally relate to this. My husband is a complete @ss and I have remained faithful for one reason -- I took vows and meant them.

I will say that had he ever physically abused me, I would have kicked his @ss and left him without regret.

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6/11/09

Floormodel

i think there are some people, men and women, who do not ever reach that point of "enough". It can be for a variety of reasons, upbringing, lowself esteem, mental illness, religion, fear, etc.
It's so hard to watch them and listen to them and not get frustrated because you or I wouldn't take being treated that way. I know my limits, I was pushed beyond them once and it made me who I am now. I have a friend, if you can call her that, who may never reach that point and it breaks my heart and her family's hearts to see it and to hear her excuse him over and over. All we can do is be there if she ever needs us or be there to remember her if he ever succeeds. I'm so glad NY will take him even when she refuses to say what he did or even if it was him. Her local police know them by address, sight, and name but as long as she lets him back in no one can help her at all.

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6/11/09

kden

In our eyes, enough IS enough, but she may never feel this. She has a problem just as much as he does, and he feeds on that knowing that she will take her back. That is, unless he is in prison for a very long time.

I once had a best friend whose bf treated her horribly just like that. One day while outside my house, he bit her on the hand bad enough that it welted up. She cried and before they came in he made her apologize to me for crying and making a scene. I helped her break into their apt. one day while he was at work. We took all of her stuff out, so in my eyes it was over. She eventually went back and that's when I broke up with my best friend, it was just too hard to watch her go through it again.

If this woman ever gets the chance to get back with him she will die before she ever leaves him.

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