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When making changes to improve yourself...
Posted by BeamingBalance • 10/24/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: judgment, self improvement
For example, if you've ever changed your eating habits to be more healthy or started working out more (or whatever)...
Do you find most people are supportive?
Or, do you sometimes feel "judged"?
I was just writing about this and curious if it's just my perception?
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i think if you do something out of the norm there are always people judging you for that. hats off to you for making the commitment! -
Mostly, I find people indifferent. If it involves being preoccupied and spending a lot of time elsewhere, my wife might complain. -
I find most people to be indifferent, the rest are supportive. -
Indifference is really supportive though, correct?
More like, "Yeah..so..um... good luck with that."-
Yes I think most of the time the indifference is supportive, as I am not asking for their approval or disapproval, they just let me get on with things.
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Years ago I made a conscious effort to avoid soda, stop eating fast food, etc. I had a lot of hostility directed toward me. I never once tried to "recruit" anyone into my slow changes, I just wanted to be "heart-healthy" after my grandad had his third bypass surgery. Everyone on that side of the family dies of heart problems and I wanted to head off those issues early in life.
I figured, why not incorporate changes slowly, instead of having some doctor insist on it when I'm 60?? I was not militant, but I was definitely criticized, and some people even said, "You're so young and thin, you don't need to do all that wacko stuff!"
They made fun of me, and I was always sitting there thinking, what exactly is wacko about not wanting to poison your body with unnatural chemicals?? Food labels are scary once you really start reading and understanding them.
Ironically, the MOST overweight people in my old office made the most fun of me for bringing fruits & veggies to work in tupperware instead of going to restaurants with them. I realized it was their way of coping with someone in their environment who was making healthy choices that they weren't... harassing me about "being anorexic" (which I am laughably, definitely not) or "eating rabbit food" was their way of avoiding their own guilt for modern gluttonous habits.-
That's EXACTLY what I'm referring to (and just wrote about in my latest post.) Glad I'm not alone!
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i went over and read the post you are speaking of... that is exactly it!! very well stated. i like your blog too, very sunny!
i wish when i worked at that company (it had a pretty hostile and unsupportive environment in other ways too) I had access to that sign: "My life does not make your butt look big!" LOL, i would have hung that on my office door...
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no-one notices and I ain't gunna tell 'em -
People will be and act whatever way they choose towards the person making changes..What I find important is the individual's ability to keep to plan ....... and perharps hang around people who will encourage them more... -
I have encountered a lot of hostility in some quarters. I don't care; I'll outlive them. -
Yes, I once drastically changed my eating habits overnight to being controlled and super duper healthy. I had insomnia for 3 days and started hallucinating on the 4th day with no sleep. Decided I should have probably eased my way into it instead of going gung ho right off the bat.-
Yeah - one of the things I like about Kathy Freston is she talks about "leaning into wellness."
Even just going off caffeine, I felt like total "ish" for three days!
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Get rid of old baggage...which is exactly what I'm doing!!! Out with the old in with the new -
I find the last few years when I make a change I try to keep it to myself because it puts too much pressure on me to 'succeed'. -
I find most people to be supportive of any endeavor that consist of an attempt to improve oneself. -
Some cheer and some boo. Some are glad I have changed but some wish I would have stayed the same. Those that cheer and are glad know that I have grown. Those that booed and wished I had stayed the same are ones who refuse to change and grow themselves.
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