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Which comes first love or lust?
Posted by vijayanths • 1/11/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: love
this may look simple, but it is not.
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it is simple and the answer is Lust-
I agree with you.
Unless he meant Alphabetically. Then we are both wrong
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So quick and so correct,sensico?
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As creatures we are 'sexually' attracted initially, even if we are not aware of it..so 'lust' would always come first..although it's more biological imperative than modern 'lust'. As for love, that's a construct and does not actually exist..it's a way of describing the way we go against our programming and our biological imperative to remain with someone who satisfies the evolved part of us. sex first longevity later.
It really is that way..it's an actual fact, but I am sure there will be people more than ready to argue the point because they can't accept that we are just the biggest ape on the planet..nothing more.-
I'M so glad all the responses so far reflect my views,DVS,thanks.
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@ekim941, you know pretty well I did not mean it alphabetically, I agree with your answer.
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itss lust-
yes, nuve, what comes next?
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In MOST cases, I think that an initial physical attraction opens the door to flirting, conversation and eventually love. Two people get together out of lust and stay together out of love (or maybe common interests).
I think it is very unusual for two people to be together without a physical attraction being the first acting force that brought them together in the first place.-
"I think it is very unusual for two people to be together without a physical attraction being the first acting force that brought them together in the first place."
I suspect that's true, but I think that it probably means that people are missing out on a lot of good relationships. Physical attraction can and does grow in the most surprising places, when a close relationship provides good soil. -
Good soil is nice but you won't get the seed without physical attraction
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They come together. The belong to the same theme. -
They are two sides of the same coin.
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which side tossed first jeunelle?
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For me right now it's love
I do most things today with love or else what's the point.
If your asking me which came 1st, probably lust.
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Love is the heart lusting, lust is the sex-drive loving.-
okay.
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it depends on the people involved...most times relationships are initially about lust because it is part of biology. Hormones play a part in the beginning stages. A more 'mature' person may have more personal awareness and not be so caught up in the hormones and would start a relationship based on love.-
I think I think the same.
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I've had both as starters in various relationships-
I see.
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could be either or. some people fall in love at first sight. most of the time though it is lust first.-
thanks for your views.
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depends.
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thanks for the feed back.
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it is true ekim.
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1.sex comes first, I mean lust(you may not be aware of it,though)
2.then love, now you care for him/her
3.you become a good friend, so there is no ego, no domination, an equality develops
4.You become devoted ready and willing to sacrifice, forgive etc there is no calculations whatsoever -
This is the correct order:
1. Lust
2. Lust
3. Lo... Lust-
1.yes
2.yes
3.yes
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@jeunelle, now you have responded correctly to the thread,(which one comes first) thanks.
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I think its lust. Then love after wards. Correct me if I'm wrong, but I think most people are sexually attracted.-
You are 100% correct richardworks.
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