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WHY are men sooooo ANAL!!!!
Posted by HollytheHousewife • 5/18/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: ass hole, prick, sob
so I have this husband who doesn't give me the time of day,unless it's to tell me that I cleaned something wrong,left more than 5 dishes in the sink,didn't cook the dinner EXACTLy the way he likes,didn't jump fast enough when he needed somethin'? WHY WHY WHY !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!??
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Maybe he has too much time on his hands... -
oh forgot to add the crese in his pants wasn't right,
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Maybe he knows that if he complains you will fix it?
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WHAT?
You crease his pants?
YOU --- IRON HIS PANTS?
Do you work a full time job?
Or in return for his paying for the household - you take care of his needs and the house?
Because if you're working - and you have to crease his pants - tell him to freaking iron them himself if he doesn't like the way you do it -- And then leave his clothes in a freaking pile.
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u kno what,I just might do that! HOLLYtheHOUSEWIFE goes on strike!!!
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WAY TOOOOOOOOOO MUCH TIME!!!
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Just start drugging him. xanax (hide it in the applesauce)-
don't worry about it floor model,sometimes I can't think either,that's why I started the damn thread,JUST SOOOOOOOOOOO SICK AND TIRED!
he's in there right now bitchin at my girls about a DUMNNNNNN BELT he can't find!! I mean GOOOOOOOOOOD LOOOOOOOORD! -
ya kno,I might just have to try,that
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I'm trying to think of a comment
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ok, thought of one.
ask him if he thinks he can do it better. if he says "yes", then smile and say "go for it" and leave him to it. -
@ floor model,I've tried that one before. I have even started going over to my bro's house everytime he starts in on me. He always says he's gonna stop doing the walk thru's of the house when he gets home and try not to RANT and RAVE when there is more than 2 loads of laundry,but it never fails. After 2 or 3 days of him being nice he always goes back to the same ole same ole!
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Who knew a civilized comment suggesting that Holly and her husband consult with a professional marriage counselor to discuss and resolve their issues would be deleted? -
your comment was well meaning and worded kindly, I'm very surprised it was yanked
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@ tt I'm really not trying to be rude,but I'm sorry u don't agree with me venting. I've already said it before,BC is my little safe haven,it is my therapy,and it gives me good practice on debating w/ people such as ur self. I am not being mean,I'm being real.
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Who knew that a polite response from me saying that no member at BC owns a thread just because they posted it, so no member is in a position to tell any other member not to post to a thread would be deleted?
When we post seeking advice then we ought to be prepared to read advice that may not be what we wanted to hear.
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I have no one to vent to so,WHATEVERRRRRRR, him goin to a shrink LAUGHABLE!!!
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that is an unrealistic suggestion!
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men men men men manly men.. woohoohoo hoo hoooo...
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And here I was thinking women had all the power. Can you not stand up to him show him how to do things is way?-
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like I said,I have a million times over I've been goin and spendin' a lot of time at my little bro's house,until he calls sayin' BABY GIRL I'll change I promise. ~just never happens~ and I really do want my marriage to work,that's what GOD wants me to do. I just am soooooooo tired of it.
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That's tough, Holly.
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Holly you probably need to address it at the moment it is happening, so that he understands that you aren't going to just lay down and roll over. I wouldn't suggest yelling at him...just smile and firmly tell him that you will make sure everything gets done and if he isn't happy with the results he is welcome to help out.
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Shut up and get me a beer.-
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ROFL!!
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You're my new favorite person!
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@ sati,m'k what kind?
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Sati, I'd get you a beer just for posting that
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In my house it's exactly the opposite. I'm very layback, and my wife does most of the complaining. If it's small dumb stuff I just ignore it and shrug it off. If she really gets going, I try to discuss it calmly; if she escalates, I walk out and let her cool down.-
that's sweet,maybe one day he'll be that way
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Yeah I must admit it's the same in my house - shes an evening gym bunny so Child rearing, cleaning feeding and bedding is all done as soon as I get home from work, and then its vaccuming and washing/folding during the weekend.
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I swear I just keep prayin' and prayin' he will change. I know I have to do whatever it takes to make my marriage work. When I took my vows I really did take my vows.
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Why take an indirect approach when you can just ask him to stop/change.
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u kno me I so have a million times over -
A good shot to the kidney will fix things...
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@d might need to try that! hahaha
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Maybe it's because you didn't get him his $6000 bailout money. Can I have a beer too???? -
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Something German, please.....
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cum'n right up!!!
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yup,I just got the y are u so sorry talk
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Hey! where did everybody go to?
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we are all hanging out on the bizarre shit threads
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oh well,I really should be returning emails anyways I guess.
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m'k so I guess I need to check that one out
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o well some things never change and some things never will,guess I better just get used to it.
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fight the power! Don't give in to absurd expectations!
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fight the power,that's cute. no I'll just be HOLLYtheHOUSEWIFE that's what I'm supposed to do
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come on Holly! Stand up for yourself!
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hmmmm,I do stand up for myself monkey,I just have to be a good wife to
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if you are a good wife you shouldn't have to put up with that crap
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I am a good wife,that's why I do put up with it.
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Give him a referral to an OCD support group
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that's cute 2 j-flower
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because Men always find alternative-
is that supposed to be some anal sex joke?
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I think so... But I was hoping some one wouldn't go there... I mean it's too easy.
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I'm afraid I didn't get it.
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Perhaps it wasnt a joke, just something that was lost in translation
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If it's not, I'm surprised no one's made one yet. We should call the Guinness people to make sure this is an authentic world record.
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Yall r funny
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After reading your complaints about your husband.. I have decided that your hubby is acting more like your daddy!
And the way you are complaining about it.. you sound like a child rebelling against a strict parent...
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that's my point,duhhhhh!!!! I've even started calling him dad!!!! I threaten to leave. sometimes I do,I leave just about once a week now. He still isn't getting the point. I don't stay gone because the girls need their daddy,and it's kind of against my religion to divorce him. I mean if that's my worst problem with him then I kinda need to get over it,it just sux to be unhappy all the time. I just keep prayin' that something will change and hopefully it will.
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Can you get help from your pastor?
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Yawn!!! Whatever! Life is what you make it!
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@arcticulates
Yawn!!! Whatever! Life is what you make it!
I agree. We all have the choice of actually dealing with relationship issues appropriately through professional counseling, or getting pissed off and venting publicly behind the backs of our spouses on forums instead.
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I would say it's the opposite. He's not the dad. You're the mom. He's looking for you to either be like his mother or be the mother he never had but always wanted.
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U know what,I think you have a really good point!!!!!! I sooooo never thouhgt of it that way! I will go on strike!!!! I won't make him his plate of food anymore,won't give him his bud when he says jump. I'm gonna stop doing all the laundry for a week,I would say (stop doin dishes),but I can't stand to have dirty dishes in the sink.
I'll even make him cook his own dinner!!!! oh my lord,I think i'm on to somethin here. He gets back into town fri. He's gonna have a cow,but oh well! I'm gonna teach him a lesson!
I'm gonna tell him that I'm not gonna clean anything U ARE,if u want it done DO IT URSELF!!!!!!!
Oh yea,by the end of the weekend he'll be on his knees,thankin' me for all I do! I might even make him deal with the girls too. HMMM I don't wanna punish the girls haha.
THANK U SOOOOOOOO MUCH!!
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I'd say the best option for you is to go straight rebel on his ass. Start smokin' weed (optional), yell at him, break him, perhaps read a few books on feminism, and consider that money does not really matter that much in life. You can find happiness with your kids without him. Don't submit yourself to an existence of slavery. It's really not worth it. Become your own woman. -
nothing changes with a man unless you rock his world. Basicly he's spoiled and he has a screwed up idea of what a woman should be. Sometimes it takes leaving for a few weeks for a mans mental geography to change. If that doesn't work, divorce.
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You got to remember if you are unhappy your kids feel it no matter how much you try to hide that. And im sure you do not want them to learn they have to be unhappy in life just to please her man. Life is to short for that. (are his parents that way?) -
While I agree that the chores should be shared within the house, perhaps theres something that he's resenting you for. Is there another side to the story or is there no basis for your husband being a bit of an ass?
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I am a man, and I treat my girl good...
I think you need to find someone who can treat you good!-
U 2 CUTE!!
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Shuttercraft are you saying she should get a divorce and find someone else? Have you thought about how this would impact her kids?
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In the long run, its not a good example to pass on to your kids if one parent does all the hard labour
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WHY are men sooooo ANAL!!!!
Generally, men lead normal civilized lives and are carefree and easy going. Actually (I'm not supposed to tell women this, being a man, but ..) we don't really care what you women do - as long as you get the job done, or an effort was made to get it done. We don't feel like we have to JUDGE you on every single task you do (oh! You took the garbage out .. oh! you stopped your car at the red light ... oh! you breathed in and out.. Oh! you walked in a straight line .. oh! You can chew bubble gum and rub your hand on your tummy counterclockwise) ...
Yet - women feel obliged to inform us men and judge and rate us on every task we do ... (oh! can't you take out the garbage without replacing a new bag immediately? .. oh! can't you put your cutlery in the dishwasher and sort the forks differently from the knives? .. oh! can't you remember our anniversary?)
So - we MEN tell you WOMEN when you make mistakes, like "creses", inaccurate recipes, spots on things after you cleaned it ,,, just to let you know how much we LOVE you and CARE for you.
And, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.-
Basically, you just said that when women speak up, they're judging and criticizing... but when men speak up it's out of loving and caring???
L M A O! OH MY GOD WHAT A CROCK!!
When you're talking about YOU, please just speak in the first person. Don't assume you speak for ALL men, because that's nonsense. Some men are picky, some are laid back. Some women are picky, some are laid back. I had to leave a man-baby criticizer behind once. That is a personality trait, not a gender trait across the board.
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Gosh that sounds awful. Sounds more like you are the maid and not his better half which I am sure everyone here would agree that you are the better half.
And, Im glad that you have BC to vent.
I would clean up the kitchen really good and NOT have dinner for him, especially since he’s expecting it. And when he says, “where’s dinner”, you say you didn’t make any b/c you’re tired of his complaining there’s left over dishes in the sink. So he should send out for takeout or take you out to dinner so you can have enough time to do his pants just the way he likes them with that perfect little crease he likes so much. But, DO NOT do the pants, take them to the cleaners and have them pressed with a nice straight line and get rid of the evidence that someone else did them. And if he finds out, tell him you wanted them done just right for him.
If he stills gives you trouble, have your magic markers ready and draw him a female face on each hand and tell him, “meet Wilma and Betty, your 2 new best friends, who will now be fulfilling your every desire. And I do mean “his” every desire.”-
THANKS ANGIE!!! Go look at my response to yahshar,I think I'm gonna nip this in the bud!!! Get my old hubby back!!!
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You shouldn't have allowed him to rule from the very start.-
Live and learn we all do that, most of us learn the hard way.
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Men have so many things to think about.. the mind tend to forget the wife.. Today my GF told me that he house been broken in last night.. firstly she ask me to call her without telling me why.. then after several hours.. until on YM did she told me what really happened to her.. what confuse me is whay women never tell what happen.. just tell us to call back without explaining why...
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What she did was wrong,maybe she did not want you to panic. Giving her the benefit of the doubt.
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Some thoughts.
Not all men are anal
Praying that God will change him is a complete waste of time, I rather suspect that God has more important things to do.
Only YOU can change things.
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All I have to say is, thank God I'm single and will remain so.
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Turn the tables on him. Complain about every damn thing he does wrong -- down to the minute detail. Tell him you hate his hair, he dresses like a dork, and yes, only refer to him as "yes, father." If he doesn't get the hint, feel free to drop kick him back to Sunday.
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tehehehe,I have been sayin m'k daddy be right there. I'm sorry dad ur crease isn't right. He's startin to get the message
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Holly, I'm going to have to agree with TT this time. Having your relationship issues on the discussion board is maybe not the best way to go. You open yourself up to all kinds of bad advice from people who can't see the whole picture and who at the end of the day don't really care about you or your family. If things are really bad getting professional help, or help from a pastor is the best route.
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well said.. until the last phrase
seriously though.. I have said this countless times.. do people really expect proper relationship advice from strangers on the internet?
@holly please don't take offense but I really can't understand people putting their personalproblems out in the open to strangers..
this puts both you and your husband in a bad light.. do you have any idea how embarrassing it would be if he were to know you out him to random people? -
ummm no I don't think it puts me in a bad light because,helloooo I'm human just like u. everyone has skelotons in their closet,and I'm sorry if you wanna keep those skelotons their. That is your perogative.
I wanna make my marriage work. I can't afford 120$ an hour for someone to tell me "what u have here is a failure to communicat" DUHH! doesn't take ROCKET SCIENCE!or 120$ an hour. I know what the problem is I just don't know how to go about fixin' it,but I think that mr. yahshar was on to something and I'm gonna give it a try!
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Because it's tighter.-
I somehow expected you to say that.
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I have been resisting for as long as I could but it is just sat there shouting at me so I had to do it. I thought I did well there was over 90 replies before I sullied myself and the thread.
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I'm proud of you.
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You've made me feel dirty on the inside.
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can't get the ants without a little sawdust
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And you made me feel dirty on one side.
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thread killah, thread, thread, Killah!
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I don't think the suggestion you see a marriage counselor is a bad idea if things are that bad. You might not be able to change him but you can change how you respond, you can learn some tools that help, change the script.
You could offer him choices, like he can either bring home food for dinner that is more to his liking, cook or do things himself or accept how you do them. If he can't accept any of those choices then I suggest the next time he complains your eyes glaze over and you just leave the room, or change the subject and thereafter just not do certain things.
I gave up ironing trousers years ago because my husband was not happy how I did them and I HATED doing them. I told him I would be more than happy to drop them off to the cleaners than see him face continued aggravation of badly ironed trousers from someone who despised ironing them. He chose to iron them himself.-
I agree,did yall look at my responce to yashur. I don't think I can get him to talk to anyone about what he feels. He won't even talk to me. I know a whole lot don't agree with me doing this in BC,but I'm sorry. I really don't have a place to vent my frustrations. J-flower u know me. I'm strong in my FAITH,(not religion)I would never take any wako's advice. I know who really have my back here and who truely care,like I truely care about people. like I said I'm just gonna keep prayin about it,do my little strike thing and I know I will be shown what to do. I really was just soooooooo upset the other day and really did need to vent. I DON'T MIND AT ALL DOING THE HOUSEWIFE THING!!! IT WAS MY CALLING! I LOVE TO PAMPER MY MAN,I JUST WOULD LIKE TO BE APPRECIATED FOR IT! NOT KNOCKED!!! NOT TOLD EVERY SINGLE THING I DO ISN'T GOOD ENOUGH! I'm sure TT,ARC,FLOORMODEL are right,he's probably goin thru somthin' himself,he just won't tell me what!!!
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I wasn't talking about your husband going to a marriage counselor but you. It might help to vent with someone who can give you some ideas on how to change the script A good counselor doesn't tell you what to do, they explore ways you can deal with things according to your needs and lifestyle. But sure, I understand the need to vent,I just did it big time with my friend and husband in dealing with a difficult person in the family.
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I always reserve judgment when I hear only one side of any story. I wonder how he would feel if he knew we were discussing his this here. You see, my husband and I have an agreement. If I'm upset about his behavior I take it up with him, and if he's upset about mine he takes it up with me. If we cannot resolve the issue we make an appointment with a marriage counselor. Maybe other couples have made different agreements.
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That is because you respect your husband and he you timethief
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HEY YALL,gotta run J's gettin out of school early. Thanks sooooo much for the advice!!!
@monkey thank u for bein' so nice to me. my hubby needs to learn a lesson or two from u!! -
My husband tried that crap on me once.
I took all of his belongings, and tossed them out the second story window, onto the front lawn, and left them there. ALL of his things.
He only got about half back, as people were picking through it while he was refusing to pick up his stuff. SOmetimes he still tries to pull that crap on me, and I gently remind him that if he doesn't want to pick his things up or put them away, then I will clean up his things MY way. And he aint gonna like it.
That worked well for us, I would only suggest it for those in relationships where that kind of frankness doesn't result in a beating or divorce. But when all is said and done I have no fear of him becoming violent with me, and if he wants to leave over petty things, I'll help him pack. -
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anok,I LUV U! did u see my reply to yashahur. This housewife is fixin to go on strike! If he decides to get violent over it, I have a hell of a CAST IRON SKILLET! 2 can play at that game 2! hahahahehe
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brb,someone is paging me at facebook
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I'm backkkkk
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how was facebook?
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It was fine,it was just my friend's hubby makin' sure I was gonna be at her surprise party this sat.. plus there is someone else who wants me to blog with him. Trying to fig. out exactly what he wants,but u kno men,like pulling teeth to get them to say EXACTLY WHAT THEY WANT!!
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so how u been my little monkey???
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chillin'
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chillin like a villian,on the 4 of july!!! tehehehaha, maybe we should dig up "i'm bored"?
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did I tell u I have a one on one with the mayor of my town on THUR. I think he is gonna let me film it to! WOO HOO!!
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nah...I am audi 5000...later dudette
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M'K later
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hmmmmmm,well I didn't ask you if u liked the way I talked. If I was worried about me butchering the english language I would've posted a thread about that. haha.
No I pick and choose my worries,and babydoll,how I type or use my CAPS is definately NOTT one of my WORRIES. I never realized how many people don't like CAPITAL LETTERS. It's just sooooooooooo FUNNY 2 me! hahahahehehe
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I would just like to point out that 'soooo' makes no sense. Did you mean "So".
Also I cannot figure out why you mix your capitalisation "EXACTLy" as an example
Then you abbreviate words before repeating yourself. Are you short of space and time or not?
I do not mean to be ANAL but your use of the English language leaves a lot to be desired....
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oops,look above
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I have been a jerk like your hubby is but I changed. Does your hubby have any guy friends that are stable who he could receive encouragement from? It helped me when I had guys who held me accountable to the goals and changes I needed to reach.
Here is my website that you might want to have your hubby look at:
REAL Men RoCK realmenrock.blogspot.com-
Thanks,I think that is good advice to,but he is a very quiet person. He has guy friends,but they don't talk about "GOALS" and "DEEP CONVO"
they're more like did u ya get a bite on that line yet?
see what I mean???
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I don't act that way.
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My hubby and I go through the basics:
If I don't want to clean he doesn't care - and the other way.
If the house is messy - then if it bothers you - PICK IT UP.
If you want something done you either do it or you ask the other person for help.
IT is NEVER expected.
It is NEVER demanded
It is always taken with APPRECIATION.
And I'll tell you what - I'm right there with Anok.
If he doesn't like it - there's the door.
But to be honest - we both really like each other.
So there's really no problem with the door.
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I've always found it amusing that when it comes to housework - all of a sudden everyone's arms and legs are purely ornamental
My work ethic is as follows: If it needs to be done, do it. Do it now, do it right, and you'll have all day to play. If you don't like how someone else does something, do it yourself.
Easy as pie
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so simple yet soooooo complicated. o the hell well tho. like i said im tryn this strike thing i cant wait till he comes home 2 a weeks worth of laundry that im refusing 2 do. He is gonna have a cow mooooo
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hey HH!!
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Hey how u doin
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just another day in paradise
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Fallacy of accident. Thread over.-
what does that mean?
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I don't get it...
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This thread is a perpetual example of a fallacy of accident, wherein Holly declares that men are "anal" without acknowledging the exception.
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I am just messing with you...of course I get it. I am just trying to keep this thread alive
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[I am just trying to keep this thread alive]
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God is perfect: perfection does not exist; therefore God does not exist.
All deer are brown: my shirt is brown; therefore my shirt is a deer. -
I think it is f*cking funny as sh*t
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Oh -- dicto simpliciter ad dictum secundum quid! Why didn't you just say so? -
Nobody is perfect. I'm a nobody. Therefore, I am perfect.
[Oh -- dicto simpliciter ad dictum secundum quid! Why didn't you just say so?]
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Whoops! Forgot the "a"!
Pobody is nerfect. -
body slam!
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I think the slam was directed at you, monkey, and the correction at me. All VD's comments are directed at monkeys; you are a monkey. Ergo, you have V. D.
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touche..
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Whateverrrrrrrr HOLLA bc
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holla holla
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This thread is useless: all art is quite useless; therefore this thread is a work of art.
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A Cyclops has one eye: I have two eyes; therefore I am two Cyclops.
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Nice to meet the both of you...
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all potatos have eyes; you have eyes; therefore you are a potato
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@gtally: The pleasure is both ours
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Ducks have down: my spirits are down; therefore my spirits are a duck.
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Hello Holly, I read through this thread with great interest and im sorry to here about your plight. You said a few things that I find curious and might be clues to your problem?
1. so I have this husband who doesn't give me the time of day
Does this mean that you’re not intimate?
This would be a major red flag if you were not. I know most women will beat me up for saying this but men have one main agenda that rises above all others. There are two ways to cook in the kitchen and one has nothing to do with the stove LOL.
2. i cant wait till he comes home 2 a weeks worth of laundry.
Can I assume he is away for weeks at a time? This leads back to number 1, any man who is away from their spouse and is not looking for any action is either cheating, or has truly lost interest in what he is coming home to.
Possible other reasons could be:
Has your appearance changed dramatically?
Do you not make any attempt?
Are your kids preventing your special time?
3. I don't stay gone because the girls need their daddy.
Having grown up in a similar situation as a child where my stepfather was according to your description anal. This will have a dramatic effect on their future life thinking that this behavior is acceptable and the cycle will continue or worse.
4. I swear I just keep prayin' and prayin' he will change.
Praying is nice but not practical, only you have the power to change your situation, stop praying and start making changes. But use some common sense doing so! And eye for and eye analogy will most likely hurt, not help.
5. i am a good wife,that's why I do put up with it.
It sounds like you are following a tradition handed down by your mother. When I was young I found out my grandfather had a girlfriend on the side and my grandmother new about it. But she also followed tradition and prayed and till the day he died he had a girlfriend.
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U make some good points. 1 sex life is awesome that's the only time I feel that he does love me. He is a truckdriver so he is gone for 2 weeks and home for 4 days. I don't think there is anything wrong wit me fixin his plate doing his laundry etc...... I love being a wife and mom. I just don't like being told everything I do is wrong. I have no other choice but to pray about it. GOD will let me know. Its just kinda scary goin thru it.
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sometimes God's answer is to make a stand, say "enough" and go to counseling. God isn't anti-counseling.
If your spouse won't go, go alone. Get help for yourself and if you won't do it for yourself, get help so that your children don't repeat this pattern of complacency and unhappiness.
You are the only person who can make positive changes in your situation. Venting online to strangers and not doing anything to change it is only guaranteeing that this will happen over and over again.
Being a "good" wife and mother doesn't mean you lie down and accept things you personally feel are wrong. God wants each of us to be the best people we can be, being a Christian doesn't mean being a willing doormat.
Unless you like to complain and don't want the situation to change.
In which case you have to expect and accept any comments you've asked for.
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I don't disagree with counseling my checkbook does. I would go hubby will NOTT that is a given. We'll see whay happens when he gets home. O I'm startin 2 rethink this strike he's gonna b sooooo mad
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most couseling offices/churches have a sliding scale so payment isn't always an issue. It may also be covered under your health insurance. Before you rule it out, ask.
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Yup, FloorModel is right-- getting that kind of negative feedback on everything you do is bound to take a toll on your self-esteem.
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Self esteem problems? That's funny! ........If my hubby nevet says good job,I'' never have a self steem problem. It just sux that he does! Bc I wanna make my marrige work.That's all! I know I can make it w/ out him. I just don't want to bc I kinda took some vows,u kno better or worse,or till death us do part.
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If there is sleep deprivation involved, that can lead to low testosterone--and thereby moodiness. I have dealt with that before. Tribulus Terrestris herb helps
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might give that a try,i did kinda like the xanax idea haha
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No there is nothing wrong with fixing his plate and doing the laundry.
Being a wife and mom is a very tough job that most men take completely for granted since they have never had to be in your shoes.
If I were you I would ask him to show you in person how he would do these things.
Try to find a common ground that you can both live with.
Anok made a statement I have found to be sound advice.
I've always found it amusing that when it comes to housework - all of a sudden everyone's arms and legs are purely ornamental
My work ethic is as follows: If it needs to be done, do it. Do it now, do it right, and you'll have all day to play. If you don't like how someone else does something, do it yourself.
Easy as pie
After 33 yrs with my wife I can tell you that a solid relationship is about communication, not yelling, scolding or criticizing your partner.
Good luck and I hope you find peace.
P.S. If your sex life is awesome he is not suffering from a lack of testosterone!
But sleep deprivation will make someone irritable, but if he were home for two weeks you would see an improvement in his attitude after a few days of rest. -
Yea I like anok's reply that's y I was gonna do this strike thing. Now that I,m doing it is really gonna make him mad,but if I don't follow thru nothing will change..........we'll c
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You are way to nice! wow. Sometimes they do need a little retraining. A strike may do it.
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I gave up on the strike thing. It's too mean
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booo!
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Whatever,u kno u would hit the roof if u have been out on the road 4 2weeks and came home 2 a disaster area
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yeah I know...it just sounded like a good idea, in theory.
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If he starts n on me again,I'll just leave. Not that big of a deal. He'll eventually get the point.
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Yea,it did.
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That's more about your husband than all men.
Is this serious Holly?-
Panda bear, he's the only ex I have had 2 go by. Whatta u mean am I serious
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Holly occasionally yells.
Hitler yelled.
Therefore, Holly is Hitler.
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Dude,go bak 2 ur own thread,I'm sooooooo over u!!!!!
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Voodoo is a religion.kobra is a snake. Therfore voodoo kobra is a fanatical religious slimey snake......hmmmmm..... u called me hitler bc of my use of CAPS?.....What the HELL everrrrrrrr! NO, ur name discribes HITLER,or at least that's what millions of jews think......Think b4 u speak baby
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BoooooooYeaaaaaa HOLLY 1 voodoo none
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