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Why are sex discussions so popular in BC?
Posted by legendarytoby • 8/07/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: sex
Have u noticed? And honestly, it scares me
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It's the one topic that nearly everyone can relate to...in some manner of speaking.
That and death. -
The same reason that if you blog about anything sexual you will get tons of hits! People like it and they are interested in it!! -
what scares you the threads or the fact that you enjoy them?-
he is apparently 12, you may want to cut him some slack if you feel it necessary -
oh lord!!! i didn't know his age. But in my defense, he started his own sex thread, then labeled it as SEX
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LOL. Don't worry. It's not THAT offensive. But I'm scared that... We'll it's just weird knowin that anyone in BC elks abt these things...
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because gender issues are actually very important and more people need to learn about them
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X is a favourite topic everywhere! -
Because you're not supposed to discuss it. It's forbidden fruit. That makes the subject mysterious and compelling and alluring.-
doesn't it??? why is it taboo though i mean at one point, we all do these things, yet walk around like we don't even fart!
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Because it's supposed to be "private." It's okay to do it, but not talk about it. It's like death and one's bodily functions. There's a conspiracy of silence around it.
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I dunno. I don't appreciate sensationalism just for the point of being salacious. It's like Madonna trying to find one new scandalous thing to up the ante. It gets cliched and eventually requires no imagination or thinking. -
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Why do you equate discussions about sex with sensationalism and salaciousness? It's not a question of trying to be shocking or lurid but of sharing one's views and experiences.
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Do you really feel a good percentage of the discussion related to sex here isn't intended specifically to garner attention by being flirty and outrageous, but instead to share and discuss?
Doesn't sound much like the BC we've all come to know! -
I'd rather the topic be wide open than closed. I'm broad-minded and light-hearted enough to laugh at the attention-grabbing stuff while at the same time appreciating the more thoughtful attempts on the subject.
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I'd rather the topic be wide open than closed.
That's the mantra we hear chanted. It's an old one that dates back to the late 1960's. The topic is wide open here and there has been no indication that the situation is going to change anytime soon.
Without doubt, I believe most sex based threads we witness here specifically created to garner attention. Such threads do not interest me and I feel free to say so, even in the face of those who may try to unfairly depict me as a Puritan. -
TT-This is not a challenge, but an honest question. Would you favor more censorship, then? Just interested in your point of view.
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Personally, I wasn't advocating censorship. I was only addressing part of the reason for the large quantity of sex threads.
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I wasn't advocating censorship. In any group of adults that meet frequently there will be a tendency to self-censor in order to make room for all. If that doesn't happen then calls to scale it back will be made. It doesn't matter what the subject matter is. That's how groups work.
Speaking of groups, we do have groups at BC and IMO they are under utilized. I believe the reason for that is that threads posted to this forum will draw more attention. As the vast majority of most sex based threads we witness here specifically created to garner attention suggesting they be moved to a group would result in tomato throwing and being labeled as a Puritan so I'm surely not going to suggest that.
In this thread a question was asked and in some case straight answers were given. We all have the option of frequenting other blogging forums if we don't find anything of interest on this board. I exercise that option freely and frequently. -
so let me ask you TT, the reason why you report sex threads is because you feel a need to "scale it back"?
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(1) The only threads I reported were the ones that I sent you and aspotofblog and heads up on in advance of reporting.
(2) My reason for reporting was posted into tour shoutboxes and the thread in question. I believe you will recall that it had to do with BC and Google advertising contract restrictions.
(3) TonyB entered the thread and verified the fact that I made the correct call by reporting the thread to Admin.
Now here's my rhetorical question to you lolita, the reason you are singling me out with regard to reporting is? -
I attribute a lot of the sex threads to hormones. I'm pretty well past that stage of life, so I wouldn't initiate one myself. Frankly, it's not the most scintillating topic to me, but it doesn't really annoy me. I feel like a grandparent, watching his grandchildren have fun at the playground.
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right but the thing is, no one is forcing anyone to read/reply to any thread that they are not interested in. My blog is 100% about my sexual life and relationship. I feel no shame in it and never ask anyone to visit it. if it bothers anyone that i post sex related threads in BC, they know their way to my shoutbox and Admins'! My goal is not to be salacious or outrageous and until i am not having as much fun as i am having now in bc, i am sorry to say that my sex related threads will keep going up!
TT I never single anyone out, here or irl. I have been reading you, Romantic and NP until I found something that interested me and replied to it. my response above is for anyone my threads or comments bother. And I don't care who/when/why I am reported. When my thread gets deleted, I move on to the next. After all, this is just a board and i don't take it seriously.
And TT if you are honest with yourself, you will admit that everyone here knows you for reporting which I don't mind one bit! -
TT You get singled out because you act like a mod and quite frankly a lot of us are sick of it -
@dbowles
I notice you are not speaking on behalf of yourself alone as you refer to "we". Please do take the time to drop the usernames all of those BC members who have selected you to act as spokeman on their behalf into my shoutbox ASAP.
I'd would like to be accommodating by removing them all from my BC friends, and their blogs ftom my BC favorites at the earliest possible opportunity. So thanks, in advance, for your cooperation. -
I would need way more than 300 characters to fulfill your request, and I also don't have the time to list everyone. It would be safe just to remove every one and then re-add the ones you are sure of.
But I'll go ahead and start by stating, dbowles1017, to the "TimeThief needs to stop acting like a mod" list. -
As I said above I would like to be accommodating and have already accommodated you. I deleted you as a BC friend yesterday so you already have received the BC email notification, unless there was a glitch in the system, or you have your settings adjusted not to receive notifications.
If any other BC members among this clique of "we" that you claim to represent would like me to delete them as BC friends, and their blogs as favorites they can drop a PM into my shoutbox and I'll be glad to accommodate them too.
As far as your allegation goes, I posted into this thread like other members did and shared my opinion. You didn't like what I shared so you resorted to labeling me for sharing of an opinion in conflict with yours in an attempt to intimidate me. Well, it didn't work. -
My allegation is not solely based upon this thread. There is no 'clique'. Your new avatar really suits you too.
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Sex is only a discussion in BC. It was brutal in AD.[ kidding ]-
Ha :|
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We want to see how other people do it and we are all intrested in others peoples lives. They have to be better than ours is what every one is thinking.-
they really aren't though
the grass only seems greener from a distance. -
Funny. I've never envied anyone. Whatever I'm doing I always think it's the greatest thing.
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legendarytoby
Why are sex discussions so popular in BC? Have u noticed? And honestly, it scares me.
Yes I've noticed but no it doesn't scare me. The overkill when it comes to the number of sex threads alternatively annoys me or bores me. When I feel that way I simply go to other forums. The bottom line is that I have no interest in the sex lives of others. And, I feel like I'm being bombarded with sexual messages in the media, here, there and everywhere. So if that's the way you feel too then I'm not surprised.
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Sex sells! -
'cause bloggers are repressed people? -
Sex scares you, legendarytoby? You wouldn't be here if it weren't for sex!-
HA!
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'cause everyone knows bloggers are all geeks who can't get any real action!
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lol!
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and Geeks are the best when it comes to the thing! -
don't know about that...I think the party girls/guys have 'em beat hands down.
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nope party gals and guys are too drunk to do anything. the quiet ones are the ones to look out for.
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ah, but an experienced partier, not unlike myself , knows that when the key to finding a quality party hook up is tolet everyone else get wasted and, while still having fun, maintaining a nice happy level of sobriety. Then it's easy to distinguish the drunkasses, pass them up and move on to higher quality prospects.
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If you ask a drunkard if he had sex he will tell he can't remember!
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I never said anything about drunkards, just that--at least in my experience--people who go out and have a good time and party a little tend to be much better at the chicka-chicka-bow-wow than geeks.
Like most things in life...experience is very important. -
i agree JBT!
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Especially if they're sauna or hot tub parties.
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Because what happens between a man, a woman, another man, a midget and a clown needs to discused.
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Any pictures?
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yes, it does. I saw something today that couldn't possibly be true. I can show u if you want
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I asked myself the same question before i posted what contraception are your using now? www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/what-contraception-are-you-using-now, I am quite sure thats the only way to help people enjoy sex the right way.
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r u serious????!!11
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yes knowledge is power
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Take it from an ex Pro--sex sells. Period. -
it's simply human nature...-
love your avie!!!!!
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Sex discussions tend to give my hands a break from the mouse and keyboard - especially if the discussion gets erotically heated. Welcome release...uh...relief.-
ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww RIVY!!!!!! i didn't know you were so naughty!!! LOL!!
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@LolitaV, thank you for your responses. Naughty? You bet! In my fantasies. But reality?...now that's a whole different ballgame.
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Repression and suppression as all cultures and religions are united on this
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It's because we are all either over-sexed or under-sexed, making for interesting and diverse conversation. -
Sex discussions are popular anywhere you go-
They certainly are but unlike some I don't find the discussions all that interesting.
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More Sex!-
YES because we love it and we enjoy talking about it as adults
but of course I shouldn't be here as I was recently presented with my Sainthood certificate bbwwaaaaaaahhhh
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I agree with Time Thief.
I mean, although there's nothing -inherently- dull about sex as a topic of conversation (eros -- not sex exactly -- being the most remarkable and definging aspect of the human soul and all that) I do think discussions about sex tend to reach the trainspotting phase a good 5 seconds after the first overly optimistic ooh-la-la.
If you asked me (which you didn't, but, like I care) to explain this, I'd suggest that the problem is that sex discussions have a tendency to quickly degenerate into the participants congratulating themselves for the enormous courage/frankness/openness/ that was (apparently) required in order to HAVE THE DISCUSSION. But surely it's a good rule that conversations -always- suck once they go down the meta-conversational road of: "ooh, aren't we awesome for talking about this"? I mean, it's all very well to say: "Ah, sex, so...central to most of our lives et cetera." but most sex discussions that I overhear go something liike this:
"So, how about....SEX, huh?"
"Oh, Be-HAVE. It's so - I don't know - NAUGHTY of you to mention it."
"Pretty cool, huh? This whole risky transgrssive thing, not being all hung up about stuff..imagine what, er, very...religious...old... Victorian puritans would have thought about this conversation...They'd be, like, totally scandalisd!"
"Yeah. Hehe. Think of THAT!."
"Lucky we're us instead of boring, old dead people who were all anti-sex."
"Yeah! Whoop. [tumblewees roll by]....[naughtily] otherwise we'd have to spank each other or something!"
"Oh You! With paddles?"
"Grrow!"
[long 'Waiting for Godot' like pause]
"Hey."
"Hey what?
"I'm thinking something."
"I reckon I know what YOU'RE thinking about."
"Oh, you!"
"No, no. It's about...how other people would be all bummed about by the sex part of this discussion. But you know what, dude? if I ever had the opportunity to HAVE sex...I'd be all like: totally, let's do it. Right now. Maybe even with each other. I'd be, like,: hell yeah -- even if I were like REALLY BUSY."
"Me too. And you know what? If someone said: "let's ban sex." (like the government or something) I'd be all like 'nuh-uh' -- I'd be like, "no, actually, let's keep having sex instead...I'm going to, even if you aren't." and if they said "hey, stop talking about sex", I'd be all like, well I'm going to ANYWAY, so there. Then I'd shag something."
"Me too."
"Who, me?"
"Oh, you!" et cetera.
Notice how it's not so much the talking about sex that's the problem as much as it's the talking about talking about sex. Why does A invariably turn into B? -
In that case Maladjusted we'd better not speak at all. Because any statement whatever could be said to be emanating from some form of egotism.
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The answer is actually a simple one really.....
Sex just happens to be the one thing we all do, want to do, some crave, some of us do regularly or wish they did regularly no matter your religious beliefs, nationality race creed or color.
So why not talk about it.
What scares me more is the fact people are afraid to talk about it. -
I don't think people realize how comoditized sex is in our society.
How else could jewelry, flashy cars, designer clothes, etc, ever have their cost justified by the utility they produce?!? -
Discussing it sure beats actually doing it -- ewwwwwwwwwwwww!
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Haha. Ain't that the truth. You can't beat the fantasy.
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ohhh yes, sex yessssssss!!!
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@N.P. I don't remember stipulating that discussions had to be devoid of egotism to be permitted, let alone demanding that they should be such that they could not in anyway be construed as 'emanating from egotism.' That would, indeed, be insane. Also, as you say, it would require universal silence.
But there's still a difference between talking about something and talking about how it's good to talk about something (or even that it's good to be the kind of person who thinks it's good to talk about something.) My point is: you want to talk about sex? Knock yourself out. But why spend time talking about how we're very much in favour of talking about it? Why give ourselves points for being anti-anti sex. The (bizarre) implication is that sex is somehow endangered, as if it's the poor, picked on unpopular kid that might disappear into traumatised silence if it were not for the brave few who were still prepared to speak up for it.
But how is this the case? Sex is everywhere, it continues, it's one of those things that people are good at. It's not endangered, and we're certainly not in any danger of falling silent about it.
On the contrary, c.f. advertising, pornography, sex advice. There's nothing inherently wrong with any of this. And yet, I'm tempted to make the point Michel Foucault made in his "Will to Knowledge" namely that no matter how much we talk about sex, we never stop acting as if our doing so is somehow dangerous, defiant, transgresisve: as if sex had been BANNED across the planet and the Gestapo was about to break down the door of every chatroom, or every bedroom and tell people to put their clothes back on...
Don't you find that...curious?
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Now this is a funny thread for sure. A post i did last month 'Maintaining muscle mass while having sex', got loads of hits, and it still does. Maybe its to do with the whole thing about people thinking about sex every moment of the day. The next post i write is similar in nature (not so much sex), but in general i think it is because sex is still a private thing.
Shaun -
What I find funny about this whole thread is how a 12 year old who's blog is about Britney Spears even asks such a silly question.
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