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Why People Break Up
Posted by ModelElaine • 7/15/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: breaking up, relationship advice, relationship break up, save relationship, why people break up, why relationships break up
Most relationship don't end as a result of a single argument. Relationships break up for reasons other then a simple fight or an argument. I wrote a very long post that details why relationships fall apart that you can read at get-my-ex-boyfriend-back.com/blog/2009/07/15/relationship-break-upshow-rela...
It details the dynamics of a typical failing relationship.
What are some of the things you think as far as reasons why people break up?
By the way, my blog in do-follow, so feel free to leave a meaningful comment telling us what you think of the story in the post.
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My break ups have always been as a result of ongoing issues. Mainly, when girls have issues that they don;t resolve and all they do is talk about them.-
This is what I have mentioned in my story in the post. I want to know how would you resolve the issues if you don't want to talk about them. Girls need to know and unless you tell them, they don't know.
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I definitely told them. For instance I dated one girl in college who was totally depressed/obsessed because her grades were really bad. Her grades were bad because she partied all the time and went to class occasionally. If I mentioned this fact, she got all pissy and acted like I was a big downer, or she'd say "thanks dad." I tried to offer solutions, but she never took any of my advice. I told her if she wasn't going to do anything to change it then to stop obsessing about it and telling me about it constantly. That never happened though; it was the same thing over and over. Finally I couldn't deal anymore and just broke it off. Some people like drama; not me.
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In all relationships, business, love, marriage, the breaker is when the negative outweighs the positive. As long as both people or organizations feel a positive from the relationship, it will continue.-
i agree
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I think beyond a certain point talking about the relationship becomes a waste of time. Better to acknowledge basic incompatibilities, that you've moving in different directions, and fulfillment lies elsewhere. -
My breakups have been based on the other person doing something that I cannot find acceptable.
IE: My last husband cheated on me... and did some other things I could not accept in a relationship. One of the main things - is that he could not handle when I got VERY sick - and chose instead to ignore me downstairs, and let me just be alone and sick... instead of taking care of me.
So it has to be something that I wouldn't do in a relationship, under any circumstances.
And there have been a couple relationships where... well... it just didn't work out.-
Wagerwitch that sounds horrible, you being very sick and he not doing a damm thing to try and comfort you and left you alone? Mannn I don't blame you for leaving his behind.
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Relationships fail primarily because one or both of the partners are thinking and living in "ME" mode instead of "WE" mode.
When one partner is operating in "ME" mode, eventually the other one is forced to do the same. Once that happens, there is no relationship, just two people sharing space.-
SweetViolet
That is the real key! It may seem like a simple statement on the surface but it makes sense totally and this is what it boils down to. I would be most honored if you could leave the same comment in the comment section on my blog post as it would add tremendous value to the post and those reading it. here is the blog post get-my-ex-boyfriend-back.com/blog/2009/07/15/relationship-break-upshow-rela... -
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Thank you!
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hmmm.. there are plenty of reasons:
1.lack of communication
2.out of love
3.fall for someone else-
yup, i guess for me those are the top 3 reasons people break up. i think other reason would be financial. -
i love both the profile pix
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My breakups have usually to do something with the relationship being uneven in some manner of speaking: e.g., I'm putting in more effort than she is, her expectations are different than mine, etc. This in and of itself is not something that will murder a relationship: there is always a compromise involved. I tend, however, to attract strong personalities who refuse to compromise on anything in particular. -
no experience in this subject!!
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I left this comment on your site: The post reminds me of a classic lack of communication issue. Both had expectations of what a "relationship" is and didn't communicate that fairly to the other. A lot of the back and forth passive aggressive behavior could have been nipped in the bud had either taken the time to sit down and talk about what was missing and what was needed to make things work.
Sometimes I think as women we tend to try to avoid confrontation/conflict and as a result we bottle our feelings. This is never a good thing. Not saying you should flip out all banshee style at the height of your anger but you should definitely come back once you have thought about the situation and express your feelings to your partner. If he doesn't get it or try to make some adjustments to make it work he isn't the right one.-
Thank you for commenting!
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because men are stupid
I mean so what if it's 11:45 and we have to drive back 30 minutes. I haven't seen my mother in a month it's normal that I stayed there for 45 minutes and so what if you get the kids ready in the morning, I stay with them the whole day AT WORK!! so shut it!
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Relationships often break up because people stop working on them. In order to grow, relatonships need nurturing--just as any other living thing does. Too often people start taking their spouse/partner for granted--or their expectations of that person are unrealistic.
Communication is so important! It is important for people to communicate their feelings as well as their little irritations before they fester into something much bigger.
My husband and I are both pretty busy people--he particularly so. We have 'date night' once a week and when he is not away on business, we have dinner together every night. We often plan little romantic get-a-ways that spark up the relationship. For example, last spring, he whisked me away to the most romantic weekend at Big Sur.
We do things like leave little love notes for each other in unexpected places--and I can't tell you how many times my husband walks through the door with a huge bouquet of red roses--for no reason at all. We constantly do things to let each other know how much we love each other.
And if I do say so-our romance factor is red hot! And I won't go into any more details on that front! -
People usually break up because the reasons they were together in the first place were not the right ones. -
I am in the midst, or I suppose the tail-end of a break up. We broke up for several reasons. I think the bottom line is inertia. If two people are forced to create this...they are better left apart. It's the most organic reason for breaking up. So much so, that I think plenty of people rationalize the lack of inertia and stay anyway. Frankly I'd rather put my head under water and take a long breath. That would feel better than being motionless. -
Break-ups. the last break-up i had drove me in to a deep depression. but i know have an amazing boyfriend and looking to get married some day. but i believe that communication is the biggest reasons people break-up next to not knowing one's self.
-jennifer -
Break-ups. the last break-up i had drove me in to a deep depression. but i know have an amazing boyfriend and looking to get married some day. but i believe that communication is the biggest reasons people break-up next to not knowing one's self.
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Sometimes you just don't feel the same for that person. Love is so strange. You can be all wrapped up in each other sooo much one minute. But then you can wake up the next day and decide you want "out" and for no apparant reason. It's just the way love goes. It's natures way of telling you it's time to move on.
Relationships can break for no reason at all. I've had relationships in the past and to this day I'm still wondering what I could have done differently to make it last.
I think we just have to admit that nothing lasts forever. -
People break up because one party feels it's time for an upgrade. -
Infidelity is the biggest reason.
Compatibility or no compatibility is another[ emotional,sexual,cultural, habits,thinking,belief systems ]
And they say.... change is only constant..
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