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Posted by ahardrain • 9/03/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: differences, Help, MEN, why, women
OK I stole most of this from nikkis09 discussion on Men. So now we can turn the table
Let me know... what do you women want? What bugs you most that us men do? What do you like most?
Sometimes I just don't understand some women.
Why the 17 brand new pairs of shoes, unworn in the closet and still shopping for more.....
Why the toilet seat must always be left down..
Whyhair product, make up, conditioners, etc. taking up every spot on the bathroom counter...
What I want to know most is what type of man you like.
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Why the 17 brand new pairs of shoes, unworn in the closet and still shopping for more.....
Because each pair goes to a different outfit. It would look awful silly to wear purple shoes with a green outfit.
Why the toilet seat must always be left down..
Because I wake in the middle of the night when a kid pukes.
Why hair product, make up, conditioners, etc. taking up every spot on the bathroom counter...
For the same reason newspaper is all over the place.
What I want to know most is what type of man you like.
My husband-
Sounds like your hubby is one lucky guy :-)
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I bet this thread gets better answers-
Well only time will tell. But who cares what thread gets more answers. It;s just nice to learn a little bit more about the opposite sex IMHO
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ah...great subject
"Let me know... what do you women want? What bugs you most that us men do? What do you like most?"
we women, we want a man with brains and a great body. we also want one that won't do completely idiotic things for the hell of idiocy, and one that enjoys moving away from the tv.
what bugs me the most that men do?
all the dim things that common sense tells them not to do but they do anyway.
what do i like most?
definitely the body, men are beautiful creatures for the most part (except when they let themselves go...ahh). i also like the fact most men are less argumentative than women and that they make pretty decent friends too.
now about the shoes, not all women do that. my mother does it and it upsets the hell out of me because there's shoes EVERYWHERE all the time. some women like to collect shoes so that they can be prepared for every occassion and every outfit...years down the line.
the toilet seat should be left down because sometimes we are half awake when we go to the bathroom and don't pay a lot of attention, sit down, and in the dirty toilet water we go...ewwww. that and it looks ridiculous when the toilet seat is left up...it just makes the bathroom look uninviting for some reason.
as for the hair products, make up, yada yada...you men want us to look damn good, you must sacrifice your bathroom sink space...
now as for the type of man i like...basically what my boyfriend is; the type that puts the seat down, doesn't get pee all over the bathroom, uses his brain, doesn't think with his lower head all the damn time, looks good, is loving, caring, somewhat successful (at least holds down a full time job) and isn't a whore when he's drunk.-
Wow now that's what I'm talking about. Great answers that a few of us men can actually understand. Well, maybe not the Dim ones
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I'm recoiling from the gender based cliches about what men want and what women want. Dating blogs are full of these lists of differences which IMO are artificial as gender based cliches, generalizations and stereotyping always fall apart under scrutiny. We are both members of the same species after all, aren't we?
Men and women are both from earth and they both need and want the same things in long term relationships. Men and women have far more in common than they do differences. However, those selling products and services and their customers dwell on the differences, and what we fail to recognize is that when we buy into stereotyping we are buying into dehumanizing each other.
If you want to read my list you will have to click my username and then the url for my blog this time ~ this space. When you arrive on my blog simply copy and paste this title into the searchbox to find the post titled: Earthlings seek loving compatible partners
The following are turn-offs for me:
Dishonesty
(1) Lack of attention to personal hygiene
(2) Lack of common courtesy and manners
(3) Addictions to drink, drugs & red meat
(4) Religiosity
(5) Lack of kindness and compassion for others
(6) Inability or disinterest in managing money appropriately
(7) Strong interest in armchair ie. non-participatory sports
(8) Lack of interest and effort in maintaining a healthy body weight and fitness level
(9) Addictions to purchasing electronic gadgets and automotive type boy toys
(10) Arrogance and narcissism
(11) Neediness - I'm your partner, your best friend, your lover, your equal, and not your mother
(12) Closed mindedness
(13) A sense of humor that focuses on bodily functions and/or sex
(14) An inability to laugh at themselves
(15) Lack of affection domestic animals, wildlife and the environment
(16) Laziness and an inclination to procrastinate
(17) Lack of sensuality - it's enjoyment of the journey, not the destination that counts
(18) Drama queens (yes, I have met male drama queens - they tend to be exceedingly close to their mothers)
(19) In ability to forgive, pouting or sulking, or acting cold & distant (get over it!)
(20) The expectation that I will cheerfully attend events I have no interest in as an escort
(21) Inability to listen and inclination to constantly interrupt.
(22) Inability to cook and clean - I'm not your maid.
(23) Metrosexual inclinations.
(24) Men who turn toilets into libraries - for gob's sake if you eat right then elimination is not a problem.
(25) Inability or reluctance to toss laundry into the hamper it belongs in.
(26) Inability or reluctance to put a new bog roll on the toilet paper roller when only two tiny sheets remain.
(27) Inability or reluctance to do grocery shopping, bill paying and/or to run errands.
(28) Extreme vanity - men who take longer to get ready to go out than I do.
(29) Repressed sexuality and/or lack of inclination to experiment.
(30) A voyeuristic addiction to porno - I guarantee that I have more interesting action to offer than those who are paid to perform on videos do.
(31) Men who spend an excessive amount of time washing and polishing automobiles or motorbikes.
(33) Passive aggressive manipulative tendencies.-
"Men and women are both from earth and they both need and want the same things in long term relationships" Yes we do.
Seeing how we are all bloggers here, lets try to keep the self promotion on the down low.
Great and thoughtful list. Even if I am an occasional sufferer of #24, sometimes the bathroom is one of the only places in a house that you get alone time and peace. So why not multi-task? -
I'm glad you appreciated my list, and agree that men and women both need and want the same things in long terms relationships. The post I indicated above contains What do earthlings want? (7 directly related points).
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yes...about #24, a good lot of men take quite a bit of time in the crapper. for many, it is a place to escape the hecticness of daily life and relax (especially for the married man). for many others, a lack of fiber or a slow intestinal speed make the bathroom a decent reading area. many men suffer from slow poo, it takes a bit of time for it to work out.
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Why the 17 brand new pairs of shoes, unworn in the closet and still shopping for more.....
Why the toilet seat must always be left down..
Whyhair product, make up, conditioners, etc. taking up every spot on the bathroom counter...
What I want to know most is what type of man you like.
So, which is it ... you want to know about our habits or what kind of man we like? Because those are several different questions
And just to add to my thought, what one woman posts here is not necessarily the opinion of other women that visit this thread.-
Hi Bettie, I replied to a discussion that was similar in nature only the sexes were reversed, so I thought to do one for us men and find out whatever anyone wanted to add to help us understand women better. There are no right or wrong answers. Anything that you add to this discussion is appreciated.
And I do hope many more women will reply. Then can add their own questions or thoughts.
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Shoes: shoes are like earrings...fashion accessories. I have, for example, 3 pairs of red shoes...fancy cloth ones to go with a dressup outfit that has red in it, low-heeled lizard print ones to wear with "smart casual" outfits, and a pair of red sandals to wear with casual clothes. I have four pairs of black boots...lizard-print cowboy boots, black leather riding style boots, black suede chukkas, black leather lace-up ankle boots: each pair has a different style and is to be worn with a different kind of outfit or in a different season.
The toilet seat: the toilet was designed to be covered...that is why it has a lid. With the lid down, people who must sit to wee don't end up with their bums in cold, unsanitary water in the dark; your toddler is less likely to drown in it (yes, it can happen); your dog will not drink out of it...and then lick your face. Most importantly, however, with the lid down, when you flush you will not aerosolize the entire room...including the toothbrushes and your own face...with the contents of the toilet. PUT THE DANGED LID DOWN!
All the stuff in the bathroom? You want pretty? You want smooth? You want smells nice? Well, it takes a lot of products to produce that. Don't mess with the magic...just appreciate the results.
Different kinds of women like different kinds of men. For me, he must be intelligent, kind hearted, honest, compassionate, respectful of others, and have a sense of humour. My husband is all that. I'm a happy camper.-
Funny how when this discussion started comments went right to the bathroom LOL. I noticed a few weeks ago on a TV program about couples who were looking to buy new houses, many if not all wanted to make sure either they had separate bathrooms or the minimum two sinks, a his and hers if you want. Just an observation!!
Again nice to see another happy camper, as I too am very happy with my beautiful mate.
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There's only one thing I want from a man. And that is...-
The toilet lid down??????
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LMAO - Well...
Knowing her....
*EVIl GRIN*
giggles for about another hour.
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You know me too well, WW!
@hardrain
Haha, no. Such petty things don't bother me. What I want from a man is the one thing that I don't have as a woman.
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Ahh I got it now, facial hair?
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She has facial hair already
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God luv'em! Where would we be without them?-
Not sure where we would be without them. Hell, that's why the discussion. New question, where would us men be, without you, the fairer sex???
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Yes, hardrain. I want facial hair from a man. LOL
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These intelligent answers are coming, don't forget, from a smiling goat.
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I hear smiling goats are the ones you can't trust. -
But I don't know what looks worse, a smiling goat or a grinning donkey
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Just...-
I have read other quotes from Holly and never saw just a single word, hmmm
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I hear goats are quite intelligent.
Men would be lost without women. They pretend they don't need us, but they do.-
Baaaaaaah (while munching grass) Goats are just stubborn, they rarely admit they need a helping hand or an opinion.
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Sounds like a lot of stero types to me:
I've worn most of my shoes...
My hair and make up products are neatly put away. The only thing on my sink is hand soap and lotion.
I prefer the toilet seat down because it's more sanitary.
As for the type: The kind of guy I prefer changes every time. Eventually all these temporary lovers will reincarnate into the permanant one. I have a feeling every man I've ever loved had the same soul, just in a different body.-
Interesting, Goats mouth is closed on this one, then again I have been reincarnated (previously known as Curly of the Three Stooges)
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This is strange. i have lived with men and women who act as if their roles were switched lol. it got me confused at the time. i got used to it now.-
So you have been both the shutter and the shutee on the toilet seat issue I take it? Pray tell which side has it better?
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Let me know... what do you women want? What bugs you most that us men do? What do you like most?
I want someone to listen to what I have to say... I hate it when I am expected to stop everything i am doing to listen...but then when I need to talk... he can't focus on me.
Why the 17 brand new pairs of shoes, unworn in the closet and still shopping for more.....
When I see shoes I like... sure I'll buy them and then save them for when I go out for a special night...
Why the toilet seat must always be left down..
We'll fall in!
Whyhair product, make up, conditioners, etc. taking up every spot on the bathroom counter...
Hehe, not all women... mine are on my shelf but yes, that stuff is important.
What I want to know most is what type of man you like.
Someone that can just be my friend, talk, share thoughts and just laugh with me. someone who loves me just for who I am.-
Great question
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LOL it is a great question, seeing how you thought of it Nikki. Glad you stopped by and reversed your role. Don't forget folks to stop by and answer the discussion "Men". Just as interesting or lame as this thread, depends on who you ask. ;-)
"Someone that can just be my friend, talk, share thoughts and just laugh with me. someone who loves me just for who I am."
That's what we all like for sure, but have the feeling that's why we love the movies so much. To fantasize. Although so far in this thread we have quite a few that have met and are with the man of their dreams.
Now back to Harry Met Sally, I'll take whatever she's having ....... -
lol, yes, I just had to stop by this thread and get into the convo.
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Hmm okay, here's my go at it...
I want a guy who :
-Not annoying.
-Not going to attempt to pressure me to do anything unless he likes swift kicks where it hurts most.
-Doesn't expect me to be some womanly maid. I can clean up after myself, you can learn to do it too.
-Doesn't anticipate me cooking for him. Yes I'll do it on my own accord but that's it. Don't abuse my generosity unless you like them swift kicks.
-Must be laid back and love love love video games. I love video games, I'll spend half my life on them and I don't need some jibberwash trying to convince me how much of a waste of a time they are. Otherwise you become the waste of time and out you go.
-Must have a sense of humor. Otherwise it will be impossible to make fun of each other and roll around in laughter..which is a must for me.
That's all I can think up during this early morning for likes!
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Okay now as for the shoes? Well I don't buy many shoes and when I do they're hardly pricey, I just make them look so =P
I do have to buy stacks of clothes every month or so but I think that's tame compared to most. My stacks usually range from $100-200 so again I buy cheap and just make it look appealing heh.
Either way it's not an issue because I only spend my own money as I must be financial stable on my own and loathe depending on any man. You can guess that a swift kick awaits any man who assumes I'd depend on them
As for bathrooms? I could make it in the toilet doing a handstand..alright I'm being overly cocky but I never thought about it. I do need my own bathroom though as I love my additional privacy and taking my time getting ready, etc.-
Goats enjoy butting of heads, what most people misunderstand, we actually prefer a good "swift kick" in the butt. :-p Your referenced "swift kicks" would make this goat filled with glee. (Ahh a women that can cook while kicking is my kind of dame.)
Hoofs and video games do not mix. Although we have a working version of Goat Wii.
"I must be financial stable on my own and loathe depending on any man." A true independent blogger I see. No argument here, even if it causes a few less "swift kicks"
"As for bathrooms? I could make it in the toilet doing a handstand.." Now theres a YouTube video I wanna watch.
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None of your generalizations fit me. I have 3 old pairs of shoes that I've had for years now (one pair for work, one for kicking around & one for hiking,) & I'm not shopping for more. I don't care about the toilet seat, I'm fully capable of lowering it myself (although it seems that my husband's first wife trained him hard in this category.) I don't wear makeup or do anything special to my hair (I don't even blow dry.) I'm all natural. The only things on my bathroom counter are my husband's electric razor, a candle (in case of power outage,) our toothbrushes & toothpaste.
I'm very genuine. I don't play games or put on fascades or aires of any kind. What I wanted in a man was the same. My husband's other, bonus personality traits include (but are not limited to); a great sense of humor, kindness, helpful/supportiveness, maturity, dependability, intelligence, a curiosity for and appreciation of nature, creativity, respect, open-mindedness and resonable generosity. To top it off he's handsome and has the best @$$ I've ever seen.-
These generalizations are not mine per se. Just a few I am sure we have all heard at one time or another, just like Nikki's thread and her generalizations of men.
Am I the only one, but three pairs of shoes that are years old seem a bit overly frugal. (Opinion from a hoof bearing mammal.)
Again a very happy camper in the mate dept. A$$ and all.
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Why the 17 brand new pairs of shoes, unworn in the closet and still shopping for more.....
I have loads of shoes thanks to my husband. On my own, I wouldn't have the same amount of shoes I have now. When hubby and I are out browsing the shops (he loves browsing in shops, would you believe it?), he would say, "...that shoes suits you try it on.." or "...that dress is so you, we have to buy it..." That's just him. Sometimes I have to put a foot down and say, "..I don't need that." When it's about his own clothes, he is not so keen on shopping for himself. I think he loves to dress me up.
Why the toilet seat must always be left down
He puts it down anyway because we both practice Feng shui at home and that is one of the requirements in Feng shui practice.
What I want to know most is what type of man you like.
I like honesty, spontaniety, kindness, intelligence and open-mindedness in a man and those qualities I have in my hubby. He has some flaws too, like he is very stubborn and impatient. But I love the whole package. Overall, I am very contented with what I have and hardly never grumble.
PS. He goes nuts though when I have "..that time of the month."-
Never would I have guessed that this thread would have led to Feng shui in regards to toilet seats.
It sounds that you have one loving man there who loves to shower you with gifts. Except during that special time of month. That could lead to a whole new topic for discussion.
"PS. He goes nuts though when I have "..that time of the month." Exactly what happens to him during that time? Nuts in a good or bad way?
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He goes nuts because I drive him nuts. I can't understand it myself why I behaive the way I behaive during that time of month. It's hormonal and I go through all sorts of emotion in a matter of minutes. I guess he tries to understand but "it" being a woman thing, I guess he'll never understand. He tries his best though.
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Can't explain my woman's human nature but the toilet seat thing.... It's yukky to have to put the seat down. Unless that lid is cleaned properly ever day, it grosses me out, I still have to wipe myself after I touch that seat.
I hate men that think they know everything in bed. Every girl likes it different and listen and ask.-
Now that we know how important the toilet seat is in a relationship,I am sure any man who comes across this thread will save himself much unhappiness if he simply makes sure the seat is in the down position. Of course then the reverse must be true. It is just as yukky to raise the seat as to close it? That being said, just think how nice it would be if you raised the seat for the man you love, thus not having him to touch that nasty said seat twice??? Of course there is always the fact that men never even lift the seat and merely hope their aim is spot on.
I think if someone were to invent a seat that can recognize what sex you are and what your intention for the use of the commode whether it be number 1 or number 2 could make a killing with a new invention. Naaaaa probably already invented.
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I have many sets of shoes that may be the same color but each has it's own professional attire or evening outfit to go with.
As for the products on the counter, I only have my toothpaste and toothbrush along with my perfume bottle. Every other item is stashed away in it's place in the bathroom drawers. The toilet seat I like down as I feel is the only way to have it.
If two people share a household of course we each have to choose which battle to fight. In a relationship both individuals have to understand it is a mutual relationship not one sided. No one is perfect and we have to take the good with the bad. My partner may have his faults and so do I but we oversee the faults for the qualities that we like about each other. My parnter may have qualities I lack or need to make me feel comfortable and vice versa. Communication and respect are key and when arguing keep the tone of voice mellow. If either one starts to speak in a higher pitch the other will respond the same or louder and that's when things get chaotic. I'm not saying relationships are easy but we need to remember why we chose each other in the first place for the long term commitment and work at it. I know I am a loyal and strong partner and need to be reassured my partner is the same in a time of need. I think as humans it's natural to seek security, love, loyalty, and mutual understanding in order to live harmoniously. Not perfect but at least co-exist without going crazy.-
Really great answer. especially the part that relationships are not easy and you must work at it.
Thank you so much for not bringing up anything related to toilet seats. :-)
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