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Women Who Can't Find a Man: Their Own Fault??
Posted by lotusb • 9/01/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: relationships
Do you think when women can't "find a man" it's more than likely her OWN fault or just because there are not as many "good" men out there?
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Maybe she was not looking in the right places.I mean not all men would know she is searching unless she holds up a sign and stuff.
If a woman can't find a man I don't see how anyone else can be blamed...it isn't even the women's fault.
Unless somebody has been sabotaging her plans.Then it would be the sabotager's fault -
i'd tell them to stop looking, usually the right one shows up. also stop dating one dude after the other: you can't tell when the right one shows up. don't go after the bad boys and wonder why you can't get a good man
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maybe they just can't tell because they are crazy...
no offence single women -
Are you saying that all women are crazy? -
actually, I was just stirring up trouble/living up to my name
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Oh... Because that is what I'm saying.
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I suppose I can respond to that one, with the old, "takes one to know one" bit...
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What about single dudes? same deal?-
they are just too picky. generally you have to pick between sane and good looking. the ones that are both are very rare, and probably married to some lucky bastard.
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LOL!! that is true. sane or good looking. thank god, most men pick good looking!!
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Who gives a crap about single dude...this discussin isn't a democracy.
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lol, don't rain on their parade Lotus. Can't you see they are pmsing
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Maybe they are not looking for a man at the moment. Sometimes peoples mind are focussed solely on other things, like making money and job security.-
Yup, speaking for myself, I work long hours to support myself, and in my spare time write fiction. Since I watched my mother cater 24/7 to my dad, I pretty well know I don't have time (or, honestly, the inclination) for it. -
but this discussion is specifically for the ones looking, who claim they cant find....
not the ones content with themselves who focus on other things
correct?
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sometimes you look so hard that you forget to enjoy your life. I think people are drawn more toward people who are living and enjoying their lives than they are to people on ther prowl. I always suggest that single people join things. Do church outings, take a class, join a hiking group, a biking club, etc. That way you're meeting people you share interests with. -
Yeah, totally my fault-
yes, you are wearing that same shirt every day, i mean is it ever laundry day? men want an avie that changes her clothes once in a while,:P
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Ok, ok, see me in green and wearing glasses which I do 80% of the time
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LOL!!!! NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOBring it back, i want the smile and purple shirt. i don't know this woman. Seriously deray when i think of you offline, it's like Mal said, i see you as that perpetually smiling hottie in the purple shirt
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But, I'm smiling on this one too! I'm smiling in 90% of my pictures *grin*
Let me find another one... -
lucky you. I only have one pic in which i am smiling and I hate it. someone online even asked me once if i knew how to smile. dunno but growing up, pics were a serious biz so i still have a hard time letting loose in front of a camera.
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There's another one. Dayum! They don't really work for avatars, I need to crop them. I'll do it when I get home. I was very self-conscious of my non-perfect teeth, you can't tell from my avis because they are very small but one of my upper front teeth is not aligned with the other ones. So, for the longest time I wouldn't smile for pictures. One day one my friends in college told me that I had a beautiful smile, misaligned tooth and all. That was it, I started smiling for every picture. I'm glad I did, so Lolita, smile! *grin*
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I think any woman who is trying to "find a man" has doomed herself from the outset. A life partner isn't something you can shop for like a pair of shoes.-
I think it's possible to find a man, and actually look for one. I don't think that life is all chances and mishaps, but I think a balence of expectations and reality is important when your single.
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i concur
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I think that looking for a partner (male or female) changes the way you relate to people and interferes with the process of really getting to know members of the opposite sex as complete humans and for who they are...and it's hard to imagine building a meaningful relationship on anything less than that.
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'I think any woman who is trying to "find a man" has doomed herself from the outset. A life partner isn't something you can shop for like a pair of shoes.'
I agree 100% with that.
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after a long relationship, i'm single (and having fun with it) but before my last boyfriend, i was always trying hard to "find" a boyfriend... when i decided i didn't care anymore, i met him in a really random way.
i think if you're looking too hard, it's obvious, and that's why a lot of women have a hard time "finding" relationships. if you're happy with your life the way it is, other people can tell - someone who's having fun is always more attractive than someone who is trying too hard. it goes for men, too!
i wouldn't say it's exactly the woman's fault, but there are definitely "good" men out there... my way of thinking is to go out and have fun and let them come to me! -
Guess it goes both ways.
Don't think it's a woman's fault that she can't bump into the right guy for her. -
most women who cant "find" a man, r the ones who create lists and rules and all these "must haves"
so they are so focused on looking down at the little paper, they miss whos walking by...
then they look up when no one is around and wonder what happened...
THOSE STUPID RULES U HAVE HAPPENED BABY -
I think it is as individual as the women themselves.
I have a good friend who, at 37, was lamenting that she was NEVER going to find a husband and have a family. But she was dating playboy types and paying no attention to men who were solid husband material. After I opened her eyes to the guys who, in her words, she "ignored in university" (because they were geeks), she saw the light.
Now, nearly 6 years later, she is happily married and the mother of the cutest little 2 year old you've ever seen. And yup...he's an engineer.
Sometimes people get locked into patterns of behaviour or perception without realizing it. I don't think there is any "fault" to it, just human nature. -
There are 'good men' out there! It's just that certain women think they are soft, geeks or nerdy. Not hard enough or bad enough, etc.
That's just the way I see it.-
So, I have to change the way I am (nerdy and soft) to get a guy?
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No...be yourself! But you half to except people (men) the way THEY are.
What You See Is What You Get! (WYSIWYG)
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