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Would U Send 100+ Text 2 Ex Per Day?
Posted by AchEmpire • 10/25/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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If your ex broke up with you for the 3rd time, and you know each time ex breaks up with you, you know how to "reverse them" by sending 100+ text per day to win them back, and they take you back each time, and you both do "It" when meet to make up would you continue the relationship with all this weirdness or get out asap?
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I would send her a box with dog poo, just to tell her what I think about it.
On my blog I have a link to a company, who send dog poo for you. So you dont have to do the dirty job, you can pay somebody to do it for you.
Dont waste 100 text per day, he is not worthy. -
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I wouldn't stalk someone to intimidate them or pester them into taking me back. If someone broke up with me I'd mourn and move on and find someone who would want to be with me. I would never want to be with anyone who didn't want to be with me. I deserve more than that from him and from myself.
And if we went to see the ice capades just because I pestered him into it and then we made up I'd always wonder if he truely wanted to be with me or if it was only because I texted him 100 times and we went to the ice capades.-
many people get themselves into a round about like that but sooner or later one of them will move on.
The guy is sending the wrong message by getting together for ice capades, but if we're discussing adults here then she needs to stop and take stock of her life and what she wants from it. There's blame on both sides but I wonder if he'd bother with her if she'd leave him alone. My guess is he'd find someone new who might be better for him than an unhealthy off and on again stalker with ice capades tickets. -
sounds to me like he likee the ice capades.
SHE is the one stalking by text and pestering and pressuring, so SHE is to blame for those actions. He does not control her actions. He only controls his own and since your op states
"you know each time ex breaks up with you, you know how to "reverse them" by sending 100+ text per day to win them back, and they take you back each time"
the blame falls on the stalkee for the stalking and on him for not turning down free ice capades tickets.
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That is the dumbest sht I ever heard of... Why would anyone send 100 texts?? For ANY reason?
I'm mad I even clicked on this sht.-
lotusb - So you think someone is childish and dumb because their engaging in actions you would not do? Maybe, just maybe these too really like each other and their both lost with stuff because of their worlds being very different, but at the sametime the chemistry is keeping them coming back to each other.
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I think it's childish and dumb to let your emotions cloud your better judgment ALL the time. If a relationship ONLY consisted of chemistry and feelings then I'm sure these two would live happily ever after. However an ADULT know a relationship is about MUCH more than just that. And if two people can't get the other stuff right once, their not going to get it right the second and FOR SURE not the 3rd time around. Some people are just too weak to walk away from a relationship that feels good but doesn't work. They need disaster or pain to alert them when it's time to leave. This is the logic of an underdeveloped person.
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Who wins? No one wins. It's not a game or a competition. I think it's pathetic when people waste their time like this. The person strong enough to finally walk away and stand their ground and MOVE ON is the person who at least stands a chance of actually having a life and understanding what a real relationship looks like.
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It's the third time! Common, if didn't work the other two, it won't work the third...
I'm not insulting you, but maybe it's the time to end, or in your words "get out asap"-
If two people have begun a pattern of behaivior that causes them to think it's ok to enter into a rocky relationship (bad move) OR to think it's ok to leave a relationship when it gets tough (bad move) then how will they ever be together? Their principals are all screwed up. If you really love somone you stick it out. And on the other hand if you respect yourself you dont enter relationships with people who don't treat u right.
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@ACH
YOu have a pretty nasty habit of miss quoting people. I hope you don't go into journalism. I said they are weak...not weak for each other. Treating someone right means treating them with respect, communicating your needs, listening to theirs, being honest, realistic, supportive...so on. No where in a healthy relationship is there room for games and back and forth. Let it live or let it die...zombie relationships are never good. -
copying my reply because it fits here too:
Lotus, you might as well give up. She has an answer she wants to hear and won't accept or respect any other answer. This is the way all her threads work. She asks only wanting to hear or read one specific reply. But I can say I do agree with what you've written and I find it very interesting -
Lotus, I went through it in my early teen years too. I was lucky though, I saw the pattern as it started and decided I wanted more than bak and forth..back and forth.
As an adult I never allowed myself to be disrespected by a boyfriend or myself. I'd rather be alone than in an unhealthy relationship. -
lotusb - I do read the comments. You said you were 16 and young, but you did experience something like this and learned from it. All I'm trying to say is don't call adults who maybe dealing with stuff like this dumb and childish. Maybe they didn't get the breaks you had to where you were able to experience stuff like this as a child.
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I think whoever this is cough cough, is damn lucky the guy hasn't looked into a protection order. Hopefully one of them will mature and see this childish behavior as nonhealthy and they will end it. Any time someone is texting an ex 100+ times to pester them into some something something it makes me sad, people deserve healthy relationships and lasting furutes.
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You seem pretty upset at the answers you're getting. I'm not convinced that we aren't discussing your life and a situation you find yourself in.
As you can see, most of us agree that this is not a "relationship" that's healthy for either party. A person should want to be with you without coercion or pestering. No one should have to hassle or suffocate another into being with them and a real love realationship grows and exdpands it doesn't stop and start and stop and start with no real growth at all.
I pity both parties in your .... hypothetical... situation. Both deserve better and I hope they each find it.
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Sounds like my little bro and his gf. They break up at least once every 3 mos or so.I think some people will be proned to have that one person in their lives that they can't live with or without...
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Sounds like neither person is anywhere near stable enough to even think about a healthy relationship, so each of them would be wise to run in the other direction.
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I mean that a person whose response to being left is to send more than 100 text messages is not mentally healthy, and a person who responds to that kind of out-of-control behavior positively is also not mentally healthy, and two unhealthy, compulsive people are unlikely to get together and magically form a healthy relationship.
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"...if she has to do whatever she has to do to get his attention then so be it."
So you condone a man or woman acting a complete fool in order to "get the attention" of someone they want to date?
Isn't that a little desperate?
Also....you can't "reverse" somone...and obviouslt not for long if they have broken up more than twice. I dated a man who would be on and off with his ex all the time. When they broke up she would call him constantly, sometimes while he was with me. He would take her back because he felt bad for her, but never really loved her enough to stay. A man who REALLY WANTS his woman dosen't have to be texted 100 times.... he just comes on his own. There is no pride in roping a man...because if its that easy ANY woman can take him from u.
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I just asked a male friend his opinion on this...
He said she must have some good p***y for that tactic to work.
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No. Love for me is not persistently stalking someone. If you love someone, you respect their decisions. I wouldn't want to be involved with a guy who was iffy enough on his feelings for me that he could leave, but needed to be persuaded back. I don't have the time, personality or inclination for that kind of game playing.
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ACH
Also, I remember in one of your old threads you said that you and your ex go back and forth and make up then break up and you know in your heart that your meant to be together.
Cant help but think this thread is about u.-
I often wonder how you keep a relationship, run a business and keep up with these pointless threads all day long....
So honestly i still think its about u.
ALSO...as I also recall there was a "hypothetical" thread posted about dating a 60 year old Dr. in which you denied the thread was about you as well...so I'm afraid your track record...not so good. -
lotusb - One more thing to you, why would you think I post personal stuff about me in these threads, knowing everyone see's online what I post? That wouldn't be feasible for me to do since business people associate themselves with me on a regular basis. In some threads I mentioned me to someone who specifically asked me something, other than that I have no reason to mock my personal life in these threads as future enjoyment, that wouldn't once again make since, now would it?
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No ACH, it would NOT make sense...however very little about you makes any sense to most of us.
For example...why you would state that you don't post "personal stuff" about your life on BC when there is a whole slew of examples that contridict that... Here are a few:
www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/if-you-were-33-would-you-date-a-60-year-o...
www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/my-definition-of-a-perfect-man
www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/the-90-day-rule-to-all-men-probation-peri...
www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/brainy-men-are-better-sex-lovers -
lotusb - Well well indeed you are, to pull some of these old threads up for examples and oppose them on me. Those threads are called reverse psychology threads. It's a mixture of my analyzations and everyone else who experience stuff like this. So the conclusion from you should be why is she doing this or is she crazy or is she crafting something? I will leave it up to you my dear to figure out.
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You posted threads that were roughly based upon your life. How is that considered reverse psychology? Do you know what that term means?
It means you persuade someone to react a certain way by presenting suggestions of the opposing direction. All you did was pry opinions from BC'ers about topics that you wouldn't admit (but admitted alter) were actually about your life. -
lotusb - Living and wanting are two different things when you speak of me. I can say what I want and seek, and by me doing that doesn't mean it's about my personal life. I dont want to keep arguing about this thread with you, but just remember there is no way for someone to engage in the threads I post and keep a stable mind as I do since once again you see my background and my accomplishments.
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Ach...
Perhaps your missing the point...I (like most of everyone else here, I'm sure) takes your threads and posts EXTREMELY lightly. If I took them seriously I wouldn't respond to them at all.
The day you post something relevent and interesting beyond entertainment purposes, is the day I pass out from shock. -
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ACH...Yes I would find it entertainment. Because what you fail to realize, is that when I said I went though it when I was 16 I was referring to the back and forth relationships. NEVER in my 25 years of being FINE and CONFIDENT have I EVER sent a man 100 test messages to get him to come back. If a man walk away from me, there are a few more waiting to take his place. Period, and it's always been that way.
So YES, I would laugh my little 16 year old ass off at this enire thread.
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They are not 'taking you back', they are using you for sex.
Also - It is definitely you in these threads and obviously the 'It' in this thread is sex, so therefore the 'It' in your other thread is sex, therefore my original statement about you being obsessed with sex stands true.-
crpitt - Hi once again the threads aren't about me but rather my input and reasonings that's it. I have no reason to play games, but have alot of friends who are caught in stuff like this, and she could be using him too, and "it" doesn't have to be sex but think as please. It could be meeting for dinner, a meeting to talk, or etc.
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you're correct Cr!
what borthers me is the fine line between texting someone 100+ times to entrap them into a one nighter or a quickie and equating that with being in a relationship. Then the constant need vto blame it on the "him" as if the "her" has no personal responsiblity for her actions. Add in the posts about swords and daggers and I have to hope this is all a big joke and AchE is a 55 yr old man who retired early and just likes to play around online to get reactions.
texting someone 100+ times in order to trrap them into sex and then a "relationship" is a bit skeery.
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WOW I MUST SAY I ENJOYED READING THROUGH THIS THREAD
it was a real pleasure watching a certain person make a FOOL of themselves!!!
the even funnier part was that she is totally oblivious to the fact that she sounds (like always) like an IDIOT..
Good Job Lotus for trying to hold down the fort, but as they say, CRAZY PEOPLE DONT KNOW THAT THEY ARE CRAZY....
there is no winning this one Lotus, foolio here just doesnt get it...
this post was DUMB AS HELL to begin with...
Who needs to debate if sending 100+ texts is something worth doing?
Who needs to debate if being with someone who sends those texts is worth doing?
there is no argument here!!!!! there shouldnt even be another side to this argument.
any healthy sane person will realize after text # 10, that chick is CRAZY and needs a restraining order...
and who the heck wants to "reverse" anyone? wtf does that even mean?
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passion/chemistry? i dont see passion OR chemistry in the fact that u have to bager someone 100 times before they are "reversed" WHAT THE HECK is this the matrix? give him the BLUE PILL!!!!!!!!help him reverse!!!!
ok im done ranting, this was a DUMB post!!!! dumb dumb dumb dumb dumb!!!! -
Personally, I couldn't imagine myself in that kind of situation. But I also don't feel there's any right or wrong kind of relationship. Say whatever floats their boat.
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IM NOT SAYING ITS RIGHT TO SEND 10 TEXTS
im saying after 10, u know FOR SURE chick is bugged the heck out!!!
it shouldnt take 100!!!
weak for each other? these people sound like they are just WEAK IN GENERAL!!!
there is no excuse for that behavior and they should BOTH seek counseling before entering into ANY relationship!
what the hell! they shouldnt even own pets before they get help!!!!
Its obvious they both have VERY VERY low self esteem, and neither can do better......
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RoscoeAntHillz - So you think they both have low self esteem, just because you don't agree with this kind of behavior? Has it ever occurred to you they may have passion/chemistry that causes them to behave this way, and because of this he takes her back and she goes back? Sometimes love causes you to do stuff, you normally wouldn't do.
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@ ach:
That's a load of ripened crap! Love does not make
U revert to childish and stupid behavior. I'm pretty
Sure love is sick of all u wackos blaming it for your
Idiot behavior. Passion and chemistry has nothing to do with
These 2 fools.
passion and chemistry makes me want to rip my fiances clothes off
Every night after work. NOT text him 100 times to make him stay with me. -
This thread is hilarious!
First of all, I don't like to receive or send text messages. If I need to communicate with someone, or they with me, I'd prefer speaking with them over the phone. After all, that's what the phone was originally invented for. Furthermore, as for sending text - if I'm ever in the mood, I have yahoo messenger for that, and when I'm tired of it, I just shut the computer down.
Lastly, after I'm done with you, or you call it quits with me, that's the end. There would be absolutely no reason for you or I to contact each other.
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