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Would you marry for money?
Posted by gosmelltheflowers • 8/19/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Tags: divorce, flowers, grabbing, greed, happy, love, marriage, money, soulmates, unconditional
Your input please, to help GO! Smell the flowers settle a 'healthy difference of opinion':
Some are cynical about money grabbing marriages where others are more romantic and believe there must be love involved.
Whaddaya say? We would appreciate any examples where people have married for money or just for the unconditional hell of it.
Would you say relationships are based on the bank balance or can they truly be unconditional?
More examples welcome here and at our blog post:
www.gosmelltheflowers.com/blog/archives/823
So, would YOU marry (or have you) for money?
Cheers!
User Comments
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No i wont. I still want to earn money from a hard work or better by blogging.. lols!-
Blogging is one way - but would you marry someone for their blog in that case? A millionaire links kinda guy :0)
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I'll marry for money...just email me.-
Ha! How devilish!
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Nope, I won't marry at all. I don't believe in the institution of my marriage.
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Interesting point - would make a great point of discussion!
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No. I need to know I can live with someone for a very long time even if we had the misfortune of living in a cardboard box.
Once the money is gone, the false friendship is over.-
rofl @ I'll marry for money...just email me. -
Fairpoint - this is taking shape guys...
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if u marry for money ...you are marrying money ...-
With this $ I thee wed!
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Well, I haven't ever married,
but looking back, I'd say that
three of my ex-lovers were
primarily attracted to me
because of my money. (That
was back when I HAD a bunch
of money!)
Aside from that, I totally
believe in relationships
based on love, where money
is NOT a consideration.
And then again, aside from
that, yes, I would marry for
money, on my own terms, as
I spelled out a while ago in
a 'Seven Random Things' meme...
See point #5 if you're curious:
jayapurrs.blogspot.com/2007/06/7-random-things-tag-im-it.html-
Great answer and thanks fro sharing that wonderful point of illustration!!
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Still single? :-P
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how much money you got? LOL -
I married for love. If there's ever a next time, I'm marrying someone with a foot fetish because I love foot massages. Love and money be damned.-
So you'd marry for foot attention then?!
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Nothing permanent about money I prefer to have something I can carry with me through my life like a smile and a hug -
Since most of my friends are from other countries I have had many proposals to marry them for money. I've had to decline... I guess i'm the hopeless romantic - but its cute when a girl says 'Green Card' with an Eastern European accent. -
My last wife did that to me.-
Was she worth it?
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I still dont wanna marry though, because im already married. lol!
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I married for love.
However if an arrangement is made between two people where they are both benefiting and honest about what they are looking for, I am not going to judge that. To each their own.-
Great attitude!
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Had my chance to marry a really good man, who was very wealthy. Just couldn't do it no matter how great the temptation. I married for love instead.-
From the heart, T - many thanks for your contribution!
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No way! -
My wife is broke and I have less than she does so I would say in our case we married for love not money. There are defiantly people that mary for money. I'm just not one of them.-
Thanx for sharing too.
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For money or for love? I prefer love to money -
I would marry for character, integrity, and good moral compass. To me, love is a choice. If it's just something I fall into, I can fall out of it again. Therefore, I could make a choice to love a man with money and behave in his best interest. I could choose to love him and choose to do that in the unconditional, sacrificial way that love should be. But I certainly would NOT marry a man who chooses to sit around on his assets instead of making a living. Love is grand, but it don't keep the lights turned on or food on the table.-
Gee, Ann, you're just what that question needed. That's exactly what my grandmother would have said.
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Love is indeed a choice - it sometimes 'pays' to remember that, right?
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"To me, love is a choice."
Excellent! I word it just a bit differently saying that "love is a decision", but I've said this for years. But yes, love is not something that happens to you, it is something that you do, it is a verb, not a noun.
Sadly I did not come to this understanding until after I had neglected two major relationships to death. -
That is my sentiment too. I obviously did not marry for money. But that does not make my marriage a wonderful one. Money is important.
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You need money to cover the basics or it causes some serious marriage issues BUT you should marry for love with a foundation of financial stability. When my wife and I got married she was finishing college and I worked for a company that started bouncing my payroll checks 6 months after getting married.
At one point during the beginning of our marriage I took a job for $7.50 an hour to take care of the bills while she was still in school.
Fast forward to almost 10 years later I pull in over 6 figures. I know she married me for love so when the $ does come in you can appreciate it and enjoy it together with your family.-
Thanks for sharing kickingback.
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No way, when I think of what makes me happy it has nothing to do with money. I just love to spend time with my boyfriend, going for a walk, making dinner, drinking wine in the evening....-
Smelling the flowers, then! Great.
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I have another question "Would you marry just so you were not alone"
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Nope. I LIKE being alone,
which is probably why I
have never married! And
of course I mean alone, as
in without HUMANS around...
but I do need CATS around!!!
And I'd gladly marry my
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Marrying for loneliness is a sign of cowardness it means that person is not ready to take responsibility for keeping themselve company and happy and marrying for money is sucidal... Why? good question, the hearts is only sastified with one thing alone love and getting stuck in a marriage without love is like sentencing your heart to life imprisonment
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April, I'm not saying money is the end all and be all. But when the lights get turned off and your car gets repossessed, all the walks, dinners, and wine seem to pale in importance suddenly. Where do the ingredients for dinner and where does the wine come from? It's wonderful to dine by candlelight, unless that's the only choice available.
I'm really not a greedy person, but I've found that the grocer, the power company, the water company, the insurance company, the landlord, and a lot of others seem keenly interested in receiving money or not providing services.
Those who say they'd live in a box or under a bridge have likely never tried it. Then, let children come along and see if it would be ok to submit them to that sort of life. Probably not.
My husband and I loved each other because we chose to and made a commitment to stay together and honor our vows. There were days when we didn't like each other, but we always loved each other. We went through some very bad financial times that I wouldn't wish on anyone. Now, I've decided that if I'm to be dirt poor, I can do that very well on my own. I don't need a man to help me with that. As much as I loved my husband, I really don't want to go through those kinds of trials again. It zaps the life right out of you and breaks your heart daily.
If I marry again, the man will have an income. I'm too old to live in fear of the phone calls from creditors or the sound of someone in the driveway coming to take my car away. I'll leave all that to young romantics because, gosh, it sure is a lot of fun. Not.-
From the heart stuff - thanx.
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Robinj, it's entirely possible I might marry to not be alone. I liked being married. I liked knowing the person I went to bed with at night loved me and thought of me enough during the day to give me a phone call now and then. I am pretty self-sufficient, so I suppose I don't *need* a spouse. But it's been nearly 2 years since my husband passed away and I am lonely a lot of the time.
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Thanx for your honesty here - a great example!!
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Everyone knows that marriage only costs you money. It isn't going to make you any money. -
Homeschoolzoo I like being married too but I think if you are lonely it is a reflection of self and not something someone else can cure....however having said that my 80 yr old Mother has a companion who visits once a week and I am sure it is not a Gone with the wind scenario....so I think everybody has to determine what their concept of happiness and fulfillment is and live their lives accordingly regardless of what others think
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Thanks Robin...food for thought..
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Unless you've spent too many days in a row without someone dear to you to confide in, it's hard to understand the difference between being alone and loneliness. I miss that kind of relationship. I miss coffee talks in the morning and country roads on a hot summer's day with someone who is able to nearly read your thoughts before you speak the words. I don't believe loneliness is part of self. Loneliness is a yearning that you can't satisfy on your own. It goes very deep into the soul.
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hm never, i want to marry for love, if the person has money then that's just a bonus.-
How big a bonus though? :0)
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My wife and I were not practical enough to do that. And we're still pretty impractical from that point of view.-
We're with ya stoneman!
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ahhh YES! Why is marrying for love so much more noble than financial security.-
ONe of the few to admit for cash!! $$$$
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i'll not marry for money coz i provide the money =)-
Fair play to you!
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I'll marry the person who asks! -
When my husband and I married, we were both just starting out in our respective careers, and financially it was sometimes quite a struggle. Once established, though, he has always made considerably more money than I have. We could live on his income alone rather easily if we chose to.
On the other hand, my work as a researcher has earned a certain amount of non-monetary recognition through my writing, conference presentations, and so on. So, my husband likes to tell people that "We have a true partnership -- I earn the money, but Bobbie's the one who brings honor to our name." He says it as sort of a tease, but I choke up every time I hear it.-
Now that is a great thing. Sounds like you have a keeper! -
Fair comment well made - thanks for sharing....
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Thanx for answering this, honest as always...
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I would marry first for love. All other gifts including money is a blessing, to be appreciated and give thanks for. -
Marry?
Huh?
Oh!
... No, I wouldn't marry.
erm.. I mean I wouldn't marry for money.-
LOL!
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LOVE AND MONEY
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Both but which is more important to you?
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I would not do that.
I know a couple of people who went and got married for money.
Well, they were approached by people who wanted to be able to stay in (COUNTRY) and marriage was they only way and they were willing to and paid them a couple of thousand dollars at the beginning and then a monthly fee for a couple of years as they "kept up appearances". Howz that for marrying for money? Would any of you do it?-
Where do I go? lol
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Love comes first before money alphabetically speaking...lols-
A-Z!
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Well, I certainly didn't marry for money. But it still "paid off" for me. Love is infinitely more important.-
This seems to be the trend. Surely someone here is in it for the cash?
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Depends on what she looks like lol!
But no.. I doubt I will ever marry anyway.
No-one wants me! ;o(
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Now come on we don't believe that for a second!
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I say no I would only marry for love but still it's tempting.... -
No Way !!!-
Honest and straight to the point!
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My mom always said, the first time you marry for love, the second time for money. I think I would marry for money, after being married for so many broke years! But then, that kind of money sometimes makes bad things happen to you so perhaps I wouldn't. People with money can get rid of you if they get tired of you, whereas you and your broke spouse have to just work it out or ignore each other. I don't think I want anybody with enough money to make me disappear because I know I can get on someone's nerves!-
Fair point -good example!
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well love helps get you through the regular bs... I don't think you could put a reasonable dollar sign on that.-
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Maybe so but doesnt everything have a price tag on it?
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Tempting, but no.
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I would not marry for money. But if I loved someone very much and they were wealthy well, it would not be something to be sad about, would it?-
Honest at least!
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I would marry him or her if they made me Ad Rich baby! A ProBlogger gold diggin adsense rich , blog talkin wifey.-
Cool answer zawadi..
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Out of topic - did you know your name means 'gift' in Swahili?
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Never! -
If I didn't give a poo I would. But that's not me, so No!-
Honest answer, thanx.
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Just for money? No. But not just for "love", either.-
An original answer MadameX- care to share the % balance of Love n money?
Is it 50:50, 70:30 - what? We're just curious... -
I think there's a lot more involved than love and money. For me, sharing my core values and religious convictions would be more important than either.
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I'm a romantic and would not marry for money unless I love the rich guy.-
Love the rich guy - lol.!!
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I don't believe in the institution of marriage. I do believe in commitment but I do not believe a paper will make it more official or true.
However society is geared towards marriage. There's too many privileges that comes with marriage that you would not get by just being "domestic partners"
I am finding that out now.. like health insurance or even tax exemptions.. little things but it does make a difference
I would not marry for money or love... I think that sharing values among other things are important aspect of a relationship.. perhaps if you value money.. you would marry for money.. but money can also be lost-
More honesty from the crew - these answers are great!!!
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I would not marry for money. Money could never buy happiness!-
I agree that money could not buy happiness! I am married for love and have enough money for being happy. -
Only love but no money would buy no happiness too. We still need to eat, have energy then can think and love. The best is have love and have money. You don't need to be rich, but the right senses and morality and a positive way of life that lead according to God's way. A god-fearing person make good partner I think.
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i want to get married, but no one with the money wants to take the risk, lmao^^ -
I've been periodically reading the responses to this thread, and it seems that the vast majority of people think they wouldn't marry for money. I say "think they wouldn't" because I think that there's an element in play that we all tend to overlook, and that often people who "marry for money" aren't even cognizant of the fact that that's what they're doing. Money creates a lot of options--vacations and restaurants and social events that one might never have been exposed to before, for instance. Money also solves a lot of problems, and can instill a new sense of freedom and security. I think it might be very easy for someone, especially someone inexperienced, to mistake the feelings associated with all of that for feelings for the person providing it.
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Dead right MadameX - well observed.
Thinking and doing are 2 entirely different things and we can often change and be influenced as we get older.
Thanks for all contributions - unless any wil openly admit to ' yep, money did it for me' ! It gives people chocie granted but can cause as many problems as it solves, in particular petty issues.
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I might have when I was younger but I wouldn't for anything now. -
no need -
In the experience I had a friend go through thats a big NO! -
MAY...
Maybe yes...
Maybe No...
hehehe... obviously my answer is NO!-
Hmm, we're not conivnced! ;-)
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Oh Shit. No i'm NOT.-
Ha!
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I only marry for dowries. If you want in with my family, it's going to cost you a goat and possibly some chickens, along with some decorative beads.-
but would you marry Mr Ed
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Nah...I'm a colt - I need a nice filly....preferrably one with a nice speed influence that is about to go into heat.
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oh sorry...mr Eds sister
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Nope. Money I can earn. Will marry someone who will love and care for me but making his own money.
Together will take care of a small family. -
never, but for love-
Fair play to you!
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In all seriousness, I think Madamex's reply rings truest for me. As much as we'd like to think otherwise, everyone gets "married for money" to a certain degree. I know my wife and I planned on buying a house together and starting a family, something neither of us could do on our individual salaries alone, so yes, there is a sort of financial partnership aspect that is underwritten (for lack of a better term) to the arrangement.
In our heart of course we married for traditional reasons, i.e., to formally anounce our intentions in front of friends/family and to celebrate our butts off.
You know, another aspect that touches on the "for money" bit is the fact that everyone I know (including us) looked forward to the inevitable "wedding presents" bestowed upon us. Seems kind of selfish when I state it as such but to be absolutely honest about it, we used a great deal of that money for our house downpayment.
So yeas....in many levels I think even marriages born out of love are also done for money...at least to a certain degree.-
Fair! Will a cheque do?
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Do couples really make money out of a wedding? I thought weddings usually cost a LOT and any gifts would just be subsidies of the event.
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Nope will not. Though our cute puppy logo may do so for a cookie...lol-
LOL Funepets - WOOF!
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No, I wouldn't and have opportunities to do so. I have been married for my money and it was a very, very unsatisfying experience :-) Love and companionship is the only motive.
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I have been married for 17 years.
I married my childhood sweetheart at 19, neither of us married for money but we both won the lottery with each other. -
That's romantic :-)
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Cool attitude!
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That's so hot
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Hell No. I do a lot of things for money, but I take marriage very seriously and I would not marry anyone for money it has to be for love. -
I wouldn't marry for money nor would I marry for poverty. -
I didn't marry for money, but my wife had boatloads of it. I personally had a $2,000 a month allowance.
That was $2,000, in 1981.
When we divorced, I gave it all to her. I didn't take a dime.-
Good for you ghosty!
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No, but let's be real. Money helps and most women, including me, want security. If a man can't take care of himself, how can he take care of a wife and children? Brains and ambition helps and chemistry/friendship are imperative.
I'd never marry for money, though I admit I have understood why some do marry for money. Money provides options and eases one kind of potential stress. -
ghostytwofish...;o)) Integrity. Nice. I did the same thing. -
Nope,
"money ain't everything".
Anyway, it's one of the song of Clay Walker -
I will but the divorce paper is not far! -
The other side of the coin is i always think it must be incredibly difficult for people with money to really trust that someone loves them for who they are and not for their money....here the sizzling skin as i speak...
Stick to jigsaws!! (www.fabulousphotogifts.co.uk) ha ha.
P.S Hi GSTF - i've posted about being a founder over on our blog. Let me know if you'd like me to correct anything.
Jonathan (aka purple13)-
Its perfect J - thanks!!
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Definitely not my friend!
you can share your view of this. I'd be glad to post it in my blog and preview your blog in return.
ngracillaextremes.blogspot.com -
First Marriage was for Love - ended in Divorce
Second Marriage was my best friend - Ended in Divorce
The third marriage will be for Money -
I would for sure, lol.
Edit: woops, didn't realize this was old :P.