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   2/23/09

   Kingjoe

   What are some bad habits that your lover or spouse insist on keeping the you cannot stand or tolerate? My Partner was a little over weight. She loves to pick at food. Very bad habit.
   
   Have you talked about it or tried to find a solution to the annoyance and/or addiction
   and were you successful in finding that solution?
   Yes we sat down and had a serious DNM. You have to because you can't keep these things to yourself. It can become something big and lead to a break up or divorce because you didn't communicate about it. Speak your mind and find a solution. Some topics are sensitive so you need to think about it first before you discuss it.
   * I said to my girlfriend that she is perfect in everyway and that if she did this she would be even more perfect. I designed a healthy eating habbits guide for her to help her out. Alternatives to chips and chocolate binge eating and so on. Provide them with an incentive and a solution as opposed to a problem.
   Has your lover or spouse ever made a relapse and went right back to the bad habit or addiction hooked again?
   
   How many times did it take him or her to finally quit for good? Once... I make sure my solutions are effective one offs.
   
   What kind of toll did the bad habit or addiction take on you and your relationships and/or marriage? I was ready to break up with her every time i saw her eat something that was unhealthy. Call me shallow but that is what i want from my partner. To life a healthy lifestyle. Yes i don;t set couble standards either.
   
   How did you handle the situation and were you able to triumph alive in one piece while keeping your sanity? See above.
   
   Have you developed any vices, bad habits or addictions yourself? Smoking
   And what do you plan to do about it if anything at all? I quit today. ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

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      2/23/09

      Jeunelle

      Kingjoe...I wonder if I should now ask you if you developed your smoking habit from your relationship? Maybe overtime dealing with your other half it took a nervous toll on you
      and you then developed an addiction as a way of a release or relaxation from nervousness. Who knows?
      
      Thanks for taking the time to play, I find you to be pretty good through it all since you tried
      to create more healthy habits for her and hopefully now you can quit yours for good.
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      2/23/09

      Kingjoe

      My smoking habits eventuated from social peer pressure and became an addiction from that. When i stopped in the past it was my high stress job that caused me to start again, or should i say my lack of self restraint.
   3. 

      2/23/09

      Jeunelle

      Ahhhh that makes more sense. Stress can do it alright and drive you over the edge.
      I once worked closely with someone who was a chain smoker and I had to ask to be moved
      to another location because every day I came home, my clothing reeked of smoke
      and I could taste it in the back of my throat.
      This was many years ago when I worked a corporate job and there was no cigarette smoking ban. I quickly realized that it wasn't healthy and had to make break quick.
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      2/23/09

      Kingjoe

      It definately is not good and i don't really like the smell either. Its more the addiction. So i nee to break free from its grip on my life. I hate when i can't control something that directly affects my life. Back to your other discussion about being a control freak LOL
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      2/23/09

      Jeunelle

      I know it, either we are in control, think we are in control or losing control.
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   2/23/09

   Kingjoe

   this is true

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      2/23/09

      Jeunelle

      Control.... the new illusion
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      2/23/09

      Kingjoe

      Now your on to something. It can be looked at as an illusion. People like to think they are in control so they create an illusion that they are, when in reallity they are not.
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      2/23/09

      Jeunelle

      Bingo
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      2/23/09

      Kingjoe

      So how do you differentiate between an illusion and reality? some illusions can feel real....
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      2/23/09

      Jeunelle

      Exactly...
      Some know and some don't
      
      For example most already know here that I created a healthy fantasy type illusion
      (green lizard men wearing gladiator outfits and eating hot dogs)
      Notice I did say that it is a fantasy and an illusion but one I have lots of fun with.
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   2/23/09

   Jeunelle

   Speaking of bad habits one of boyfriends was a drinker, chain smoker and had stinky feet.
   The last straw was when he thought I would do laundry and wash his stinky socks.
   I quickly responded by taking him and his laundry and throwing them both outside for good.
   I'm nobody's maid and I hate stinky feet period. I heard there was a serial killer who is chopping off people feet and that they are being washed up on shores in Canada.
   Well maybe this person hates stinky feet too but that is rather extreme.

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