Everyone has a few bad habits in them, sometimes instead of acknowledging them as negative traits; we try to rationalize them and makes excuses to hang on to them. If you have consciously tried to get rid of such habits but have so far been futile in doing so, maybe a different approach would be the more suited remedy.
It is a very common occurrence that you resolve to do make yourself better by changing a certain habit of yours, but as a few days exercising abstinence, you derail. That moment of weakness makes you feel like a failure, a cheat. The goal seems a million miles away and you decide that it is one beyond your capacity to reach.
The best thing to do in this situation is to hire the assistance of a professional life coach who can help you to stay on track, keep you motivated when you feel all hope is lost. He can help you formulate a customized plan by observing your patterns, what are the things that make you fall back into them etc.
Thoughts of grandeur are not motivating enough to provoke us to bring out the utter best from within us. So it is wise to visualize the moment, the feeling that you would have once you say good riddance, that image would bring out the most dedicated version of you from within your depths to help ensure that you achieve the task that you have set for yourself.
Sometimes people find it difficult to let go as it leaves behind a void, a void begging to be filled. In the absence of an alternative, it is evident that the person would end up re-adopting the bad habit that he worked so hard to let go of, so it becomes rudimentary to plan an alternative option. In the case of people that quit smoking, it is suggested that they start chewing gum, for shopaholics it is best suited to invest into a savings account.
Having something to do in the place of something that you are trying to let go of reduces the risk of you falling back into the same routine, hence planning is becomes a fundamental prerequisite.
It is an innate tendency that we human beings have to make excuses. Making these excuses leads us to procrastination and keeps us from reaching our maximum potential, as we excuse ourselves by convincing our brain that we have achieved enough for the day.
What you need to do is to eliminate the words “I can’t” and “I don’t want to” from your vocabulary and make a conscious effort to realize that you’re making an excuse, and to remain steadfast.
Using these methods as a check list greatly increase that chance that you will finally be able to break your bad habits.
If someone doesn’t find in himself the capacity to remain persistent, they could always look into a coaching directory and find a certified coach to help them with this endeavor.