Autistics Help Us Understand And Manage Meltdowns

Autism Quotes From Autistics and Aspergians

Its frustrating, as a parent, to receive advice from well-meaning friends who don’t have kids.

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Likewise, it may be frustrating for you to receive advice from “experts” who aren’t autistic.

As well-meaning as we may be, therapists and other professionals who are non-autistic can never truly understand what an autism meltdown is like.

Well, there’s good news: I’ve collected autism quotes from Aspergians and autistics to help us better understand and manage meltdown

1. For Loved Ones:  What To Do, What Not To Do, What To Say, What Not To Say To An Autistic Person

What I don’t want to hear:

It’s okay.

(It’s not.)

You need to pull yourself together.

(I will, when I’m ready.)

Everything will be fine.

(I know.)

Source: Cynthia Kim, Musings of An Aspie, Anatomy of A Meltdown

2.  How To Reduce the Frequency Of Meltdowns

The key is to figure out what is causing the increased frequency, and then work on reducing or avoiding the cause.

While you trying to figure out the cause, keep doing thinks that help calm you.

Source:  nelson-wheels and Justeve on Wrong Planet

3.  The “Cause” of Meltdowns

It might not be one thing, but a result of a buildup of stress and sensory overload over time. Yes you should look to see if anything has changed recently but what is probably needed is peace and quiet, sleep, hyper focusing on your special interests and some intensive stimming. (underline is mine)

Source: ASPartofMe onWrong Planet

4.  Understand and Supporting A Loved One During A Meltdown

When your Aspie is having a meltdown, try to help if you still can. Otherwise let them be, let it out, let the pressure rip through the air instead of through your aspie’s feelings and defenses – and then through yours. Let the meltdown do what it is designed to do, which is to reset the balance. (underline mine).

Source: Amanda Harrington, Crazy Girl In An Aspie World, How To Deal With An Aspie Meltdown

5.  More From Cynthia Kim On How To Respond To A Meltdown

Will comforting me help?

No.

Do I want the meltdown to be over?

Yes, but not prematurely.

Would I like a hug?

No.

Am I in danger?

No. I’m conscious of the boundary between stimming and serious self-harm.

Do I want company?

If you’re okay with sitting silently beside me.

Can you do anything to make me feel better?

Probably not. But you can avoid doing the things that will make it worse.

Source: Cynthia Kim, Musings of An Aspie, Anatomy of A Meltdown

6.  On “Accepting” Meltdowns

The challenge for me is in those intervals between the good and good, where the scary and terrible leaks through. I tend to panic and think of all the worst-case scenarios, and thusly when he is ‘spazzing’ out, my foundation shakes and I am not sure where to stand or what to focus on. It’s not easy. Of course it’s not easy.

But the older I get the more I realize it’s time to stop chasing ‘normal’ and ‘easy’ and ‘trouble-free.’ I am learning to instead embrace the anomalies of life, to expect the unexpected, to ease into the uneasy, and to believe the unbelievable. That’s just life. And so it goes and goes and goes.

Source:  Everyday Aspie, Doing Our Best

Take encouragement and support from these autistic voices.  Read their articles.

Reach out to others and talk about your experiences.

You’re not alone!

What are some of your favorite autism quotes about autism meltdowns?  Share them in the comments!

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