Philemon verses 8-11 say, "Therefore, although in Christ I could be bold and order you to do what you ought to do, yet I prefer to appeal to you on the basis of love. It is as none other than Paul — an old man and now also a prisoner of Christ Jesus — that I appeal to you for my son Onesimus, who became my son while I was in chains. Formerly he was useless to you, but now he has become useful both to you and to me."
Paul is about to ask Philemon for a favor. However, before Paul asks for that favor, he appeals to Philemon instead of making a command. Of course, under the surface, Paul made it very clear that he had the right to be bold and order Philemon to do what he ought to do, yet he appealed on the basis of love. Can you see what Paul is using here? He is using his people skills.
People Skills: Do not leave home without them.
A loving appeal is often better than an authoritative command. Now, Paul was not hesitant to command when the situation demanded it, but in wisdom, he knew when to use a loving appeal.
The key is to allow God to tell us what to do and when to do it and not rely on what we think. Have you ever been hung by your tongue?
Smart people tell us that success … in any endeavor … is 15% product knowledge and 85% people knowledge. Experts also tell us that the #1 reason why people fail or cause failure is hidden in one’s personality.